HEALTHY WOMAN- BROKEN WOMAN-TOXIC WOMAN by RC BlakesJun 10, 2021
How's everybody? I hope my signal is good. Let me know if my signal is good. Wait, I have to do it. I need a team here. Let me adjust the lights properly. Let me see something. You all are fine, let's see, let's see, let's see. let's see something here, okay, it may be a little better. I hope everyone is well. My signal is good. My signal is good. My signal is good. Before I start, I don't want to start and then find out that my signal is not good. Yes. Yes, yes, great, how is everyone? How's everybody?
Lisa just asked me, she said what are you going to do. I told her what do you think I'm getting ready to do, baby, she said you're going to YouTube right? I said yes mom. I'm doing it while I can do it while I can before things get busy again. I want you to invite some people to come here. Can you do that for me? We are at 394. Can you call someone? Tweet someone. um text someone yell for someone to tell him to come here we need to discuss this tonight we had an argument um we had an argument I guess maybe about a week ago if it's been a week regarding the
healthyman , the
brokenman and the
toxicman and, you know, I got a great response from that, a lot of brothers actually weighed in on it and I was happy to see it and while I was doing it, I think someone put up with it.
In the comments everyone invites more people to come here. I think someone put in the comments that we need to do the female version and I agree, I agree, and that's what I'm here to do tonight. Having this conversation isn't necessarily good, it's definitely not a lesson, it's just a collection of thoughts I have about the idea that there are these three different types of women, a
, and then a
, and then a
toxicwoman, and I I meet, I meet um. all three on a regular basis. I meet mostly broken women. Let me see if I can do this without interrupting anything.
I know mostly broken women because most women are broken and that's not a leaning toward femininity when you hear me say that. women are broken um it's really a reflection of masculinity because contrary to popular opinion the condition of a society's women is a direct reflection of the quality or lack thereof of the society's men if you turn biblical uh eve did not come out of adam, adam came out of eve or rather adam did not come out of eve he came out of adam eve was the direct product of adam she was the reflection of adam when god prepared to make the woman he put his hand in in adam and took it out like this when a man looks at his woman if she is a healthy woman if she is a broken woman if she is a toxic woman that man then he is seeing an immediate snapshot uh in most cases of his own personal condition unless that he found her like this, you know what I mean and he I haven't been with her for a long time because even if a man finds a broken woman, he has the means, if he is in tune with the creator, he has the means to bring Healing a woman's broken soul.
Now what's sad is that, um, more. men are really broken, that's the sad thing and the difference between broken men and broken women is that a broken woman can tell you that I'm broken, in most cases a broken man is broken and doesn't even realize it because society forces him. I feel like his brokenness is a badge of honor. I was teaching years ago and it really hit me years ago. I think this was about eight years ago. I was teaching on a stage, actually, to a live audience and I was like. teaching women the father daughter conversation and I was looking back on my life and I was talking about how I was sexualized at a very young age by older women and I realized while I was on that stage and I had this moment and I think I even admitted it to the audience.
I realized that my life was going in the direction it was going in relation to being a womanizer, largely because older women sexualized me, but get this, I had never identified those activities as abuse, it really was cha. It was sexual abuse against the child because I was much younger than these women, I was a minor, literally, a minor, you know, and these older women did this to me, but when I shared this with my older cousins or my uncles, they said oh you. You are the man, you are the man, so society has conditioned man to believe that his brokenness is actually a good thing, so most men are broken and they don't even realize they are broken, so that you have a large group of broken people. men and then you have a large group of broken women who are usually the product of those broken men.
Now the women who are broken are trying to figure out how I can make this right and I don't want to get ahead of myself. myself, but the initial thought in a broken woman's mind is that I need a man to fix me and then she is looking for, well, I'm getting ahead of myself, but the reason why the woman's well-being is important to me as a man the reason why the well-being of women is important to me as a man is because and it should be important to any conscious man it is because the woman nourishes the society the woman is the one who nourishes the society the woman nourishes the seed of the man she nurtures the next generation so look at this we should worry if our woman is a healthy woman, a broken woman or a toxic woman because the quality of the woman directly informs, excuse me, the development of the family and the children see how a man, look at this as a man, it has been my responsibility, my honor and a pleasure to provide for my four children, it has been my pleasure and honor, it has been my pleasure and honor to discipline my children when they can need it, but in terms of the internal reservoir, you know.
Come on, equality is required, mother, to be able to make the internal deposit or deposits on the children and when a man, this is something, I made this statement, I don't know if it was on Instagram, okay, someone tried to call me while I'm talking, Everyone's still here, I have to learn how to put this thing on, uh, don't bother, forgive me for that, that was my fault, there, come back, right? I'm trying to be glad I started slowly, it comes back, it comes back, but here is the statement I made regarding the quality of women directly informing the development of family and children and a man who is not. wise enough to pay attention to the quality of his wife is a fool here is the statement I made about a week ago a man who breaks his wife is like a farmer who poisons his own soil you will never have anything a man who breaks his His own wife is like a farmer who goes to his own field and pours poison and then wonders why he cannot prosper.
You know, I look and all of you, forgive me, I just have to vent a little tonight, but I look at this generation. of guys um, it's just this generation of men and I mean, there was a time when I could say young men, but there's a lot of old, uh, blacks as old as me here, really to be honest with you, that just They see how They have an absolute hatred for the condition of women, you know what I mean? Now I am a man. I have lived 56 years. I know there are many women who are not nice.
I know there are many women who don't even respect themselves and who are very disrespectful but I believe with all my heart that if you are, if you are one hundred percent a man, there is a certain level that a man will reach with a woman. and he's not going to go any further, he's not going to be here disrespecting women publicly on social media, you know what I mean, because there was a harsh reality that hit me when I saw one of my children being born. I have four children, I only saw one born and the reason why I only saw one born is because that was enough for me to see that it is almost not even natural for a human body to go through that to bring seed into the world.
I won't see him again and there was a different level. of respect that I personally developed when I was young when I saw that it didn't matter, no matter how crazy you talk, no matter what you do, I'm not going to disrespect anyone who brings a seed into the world that you don't have. It doesn't have to be my seed, it can be someone else's seed, that means I'm going to respect all women, but today we have such a broken and toxic generation of men, you know the men here on these streets like women, you know it's women who come out here fighting each other men don't fight with women men not men they're not here trying to pull a woman's hair and all that I don't know how I got excited about all that but let me get back to My point is that a man who breaks his wife is like a farmer who poisons his own land.
That is why it is important that we address this issue because women are the ones who nourish, they nourish society. Listen to what the Bible says in 1 Peter three and seven. In the same way, you husbands, live with them according to the knowledge that giving to the wife is for the weaker vessel and be vigilant as joint heirs of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered when a man is not right. . What does this text say when a man is not right with his wife and when I when you know and when I say his woman I mean humanity and femininity masculinity femininity when masculinity is not right with femininity in general your prayers are they are hindered things do not work for you things do not work for you because God commissioned man to dwell with her according to knowledge, which means you need to know her, you need to know her level and then you must honor her, especially your wives, listen to what Colossians 3 19 says that husbands love. their wives and do not be bitter against them because why why is why the Scripture emphasizes this that a man must be careful in how he handles the woman is because the woman has to incubate the seed of the man the woman has to carry the potential of God puts in a man God allows a woman to carry that and carry it to term and give birth to that and thus the well-being the quality of the woman she healthy woman is a broken woman is a toxic woman directly influences your seed, it directly influences the seed of man and in many different ways, I could go on with that, but listen to what the Bible says in Genesis 3 and 20 and Adam called his wife Eve because she was the mother of all living.
That's why it's important for men like me to talk about women's issues. Now let me say this. Everybody here, all these guys talking about women's issues, they don't necessarily have the right agenda. Now I know some who do. I know what I mean and I'm not going to name any names but I know some who do and the reason God raises up a sincere generation of men to speak on these issues is because when a person or people have been victimized by an individual . or a particular group, there is nothing that brings closure and healing like hearing a representative of that group say that yes, we did it, yes, we were wrong, and yes, this is the right path to follow.
So, for those of you who seem confused, why so many. women hear men's voices talking about their empowerment it is because the greatest influence on a woman is a man and the greatest influence on a man is a woman at least a healthy man the greatest influence on him is a woman but the reason is God has raised up this generation of men because we have a generation of women who have been broken and who need to listen to honest men who are not looking to sleep with you, who have wives they are happy with, who have lives that you know are the right ones. the model of what women teach they need to hear broken women, they especially need to hear a man say: you're not crazy, you didn't miss it, you were abused and we did that and yes, we apologize for that, so now let me get in. that all my long introduction of the Baptist preacher healthy woman number one clearly only three points let's look at the healthy woman a healthy woman is usually the product of effective parenting or effective parenting because there are some healthy women who did not have effective parenting maybe not biological parenting but maybe they had substitutes but effective parenting or she had she is a product of great examples she may have had great examples of femininity before her that she has modeled maybe those examples maybe they weren't at home maybe those examples were in the school or at church or wherever, and healthy women are usually the product of strong sisterhoods, effective parenting, excellent examples of strong sisterhoods, in other words, this woman has a network or a core of friends that hold her to a certain standard and they have been there. to convince her to get off the ledge when life was trying to push her into a broken conscience.
Healthy women generally generally when you review her lives, they generally made half-decent selections related to men, they chose safe men, healthy women have a conscience about her. she has a conscious awareness of the value that the Almighty has given her, so her self-assessment comes from within. Now most women, you know, evaluate themselves based on what's happening here, what you know, what's trendy or what certain people tell you. I know the worldHe says okay this is the standard and you don't meet the standard so you take those things but you see a healthy woman. She is aware of the value that the Almighty has given her and, therefore, herself. -The evaluation comes from within as the Bible says and I love this text Psalms 1 39 and 14 says I will praise you because I am fearfully made and wonderfully wonderful are your works and that my soul knows very well what it is talking about the soul counts the will and the emotions my inner being is aware of the value that you the almighty have placed in me come on now hallelujah that is a healthy woman look that is what I am that is what I am working for I am working to create I I amworking to create a generation of healthy women, now You see, because you can be broken and you can be restored.
I am working to create a generation of healthy women. A healthy woman is balanced and productive on all levels at which she is balanced and productive. all levels, from spirituality to her, you know her between her intelligence, her intellect, her mind, uh, you know, physically relationally, she is balanced on all levels, so, because she is balanced, she never stumbles if One area of your life seems to be taking a little more time. You take a healthy woman who knows who she is and knows her worth and she turns 30 and while the world is saying oh, you hit the wall, everything falls over the hill, all this kind of stuff that she doesn't deal with.
He stumbles because even so, he still has a relationship with God, he is working, he still has his personal ambitions and goals that he is working on, you know what I mean, he is still educating himself and growing in his mind, he is still taking care of his body. and so because her life is balanced, she's not going to stumble when certain areas don't necessarily seem to be accelerating and she's because she's not tripping, she's not going to compromise that area because you say you're 30, you're 35 or you fought, You're 45 and no I didn't marry you 50 you're not married yet oh you hit the wall you're so far above yourself she doesn't care about it because she's balanced she's balanced listen to what the proverbs 31 bible says woman in proverbs 31 29-31 says many daughters have acted virtuously but the exalted ones all deceitful favors and beauty is vain that is powerful and says deceitful favors and beauty is vain but the woman who fears the lord will be praised give her the fruit of your hands and leave her your own works praise her at the doors you know what this text tells you for those of you who struggle with a broken conscience, this text has just told you that if the only thing you care about is your beauty, you are losing the time, that's what vain means. beauty is a waste of time you know why it's a waste of time because here then tomorrow it will be gone he says but a woman who fears the lord says give her the fruit of our own hands her own works her individual achievements and let her works praise her in the doors see a healthy woman she doesn't um she doesn't value herself based on her exterior she values herself based on her interior now here's another thing about a healthy woman a healthy woman is balanced between her femininity and her assertiveness in In other words, she can, she can command, but she never loses touch with her femininity, she can be the boss, but she is always the boss, she never, never loses, never loses the concept of her own femininity and is able to see this, is able to. hesitate, she can be the boss from nine in the morning until five in the afternoon and then while she's in the car, she can transform into, you know, in fact, she needs to transform, she just moves that hat and moves it around her femininity. and by the time she walks home with her husband, she is already his wife, now she has no problems, you know, walking with the energy of her boss all day, wherever she goes, because she is healthy, so she is able to balance and understand that maybe being the boss in a certain situation is my job for this particular purpose, but it's not who I am just because I'm the CEO, I'm a woman and I don't have to carry all that, you know, you do this, do that and move fast. do it, do what I tell you, I don't have to bring all that into my house or into my relationship with my man and I've already gone through three because a real man won't stay because of that, she is healthy enough to balance between her femininity and her assertiveness now look at this she has to have a man who is big enough to accommodate her she came a little um she's getting a little jovial man time I'll just hang around here and you know, do what I tell you to do and forget it. about your dreams and everything that kings never ask queens to do, that kings love queens because when kings look at queens they see the feminine reflection of themselves and therefore the healthy woman balances her femininity and her assertiveness because normally she won't have a man. in her life, that will make her choose now, she may have to modify this and that to make all of this work because you know God created her to help her brother and her brother to empower her, they become a fusion. . a power team, a power couple and they put all these things together, but she can do it all, she can balance everything, she can balance everything, in fact, I don't even know if balance is the right word because balance denotes almost a specific point where everything is level and that's not really the way life works, let's use the word harmony, she knows how to harmonize everything and she is not going to bring a man into her life or submit to a man who is not willing to do so. help her harmonize it because look, sometimes harmony requires me to give a little more to this because this requires my partner, you know, to hold me here and that's how it's really supposed to work and when a woman knows how to walk in her femininity when a healthy woman is balanced between you know her boss and her femininity, you see that it is your femininity that will motivate your man to want to help if you go in and bring that, bring that, you know, bring that out and now you bring If you mention that there, you will always get some rejection and a real man, he, doesn't say much, you will just feel his energy change and if you continue with those things for too long, you, but a healthy woman, knows it. how to balance all that she knows how to be the boss she knows how to come home and say honey you know what I mean she knows how to come home everyone heard what I just said she knows how to come home and say Honey, she knows how to smile when she enters her house because she understands that she is the thermostat of this environment, the children and the man looking at the woman to see where the temperature will be today to never enter a house with that type of energy, you know, out of the freezer, she walks towards the house with that tropical type energy, hey honey, how are you today?
Hello children, hello children, how are you all? You know what I mean, at the same time she's the boss, you know at the same time as her. About her boss, she has a good time, you know she's raising, she also brings her six and seven figures home. The guy is not angry with her, but when he comes home, he brings that balance between femininity and his assertiveness, look now when, when The woman is assertive and I don't use the term aggressive because, in my opinion, it denotes masculinity, so assertiveness. An assertive woman will always run away from a weak little man.
A weak little man can't handle a certain woman. You all sit here blaming yourselves because the guy left, he made one enough for you, it was enough for you, it wasn't enough, no, a little man couldn't handle you, okay, look at this, let me see something. Judges four and four say, look at this. listen to this carefully and Deborah a prophetess let's walk now Deborah clearly a woman, right, she was a woman a prophetess the wife of Lapidot she judged Israel at that time so she was spiritual she was feminine and she was uh really I guess it's the equivalent of she was a politician she was a judge she was a prophetess and she was a wife so there is inside you even when you look at proverbs 31 woman that woman did it all she cooked for her children she even has servants a portion of The Scriptures say she even earned a little for the servants .
She ran businesses. She had charities. She sold things. You know, she yelled at her husband. Her husband celebrated her. She was a great wife. A great mother. healthy woman to be able to balance all that and see, okay, let's look at the characteristics of healthy women. I actually gave you some of them, but let me explain if she's not, she has unforgiving standards when you get healthy. woman, you have unforgiving standards, I don't care what they say, you have certain standards that you are not going to lower when you are a healthy woman, you have certain standards and when I say that, when I say certain standards, I'm not talking about that, I already I see, your mind is already going to do it.
I want them to be 6-2. I wanted to be around 220. All you know, eight percent body fat. They know that's not what I'm talking about when I start talking. about those standards that I'm talking about you have limits that you go to I'm not going to go beyond this and I'm not going to allow you to go beyond that and you're not going to go to you' You're not going to compromise on those limits around your character and your dignity that a healthy woman requires. If you are not healthy, you will be tricked into relaxing your boundaries, letting your guard down and giving priceless value and allowing a clown to manipulate you. as a queen in doing things you should never have considered the letter b she has a strong sense of individuality when you are a healthy woman you have a strong sense of individuality you are not you are not you are not you don't see anymore Women are desperate for a relationship because you unconsciously feel that that's where your identity lies and I stop right there intentionally.
Most women are desperate for a man because you subconsciously feel that that is where your value and identity lies. get a man if I don't have a wedding if I don't have some pictures on Instagram with me at the wedding I'm worthless that is if that's the way you think you're right live tonight because that's clearly a sign of brokenness because a healthy woman has a strong sense of individuality, you know that's how she is, you know, if I get married, I would love to, but it has to be right, I'm not solving something that's not right, bishop, that's right. be right if it doesn't work if God doesn't sin if it just doesn't work like that well I will be happy I have nieces and nephews I have my businesses I have my ministry I have my own personal growth I can go see the world, but it takes a healthy woman to think about that strong sense of individuality that she can turn to, she can go to dinner alone and not feel strange about it, let her see that she is health conscious, you are healthy when you are a healthy woman you are health conscious now when I say health conscious no I'm talking about how much you weigh all these kinds of things, I'm talking about what you're going to eat in a way that you know supports longevity, you're going to exercise enough to maintain your cardiovascular system if you feel like you personally feel like you've put on a little bit more weight than you normally would. he should, he will do what he wants. what you must do to achieve it for yourself and not for anyone else because you are personally conscious of your health and there is a certain place that you want to be for yourself that is health that is a healthy woman uh letter d she is a servant of her community she's not she's not, you know, walking around like she's a diva and all this, she's a servant of her community's charter and she rejects negativity, she won't get caught up in drama, she won't even run with friends , she will not have the so-called friends who bring a lot of negativity and in the letter f she is educated and wise a healthy woman is educated and wise um you can, you can almost determine and some of you know what I'm talking about, you can determine the health of a woman. by the content of their language, not even just by the content, the energy of their language, it hurts my heart to hear women just cussing on the street like straight guys, you know, just cursing at this, I mean what's wrong with you? , oh, ignorant and loudly aggressive.
You know, dirty mouth and all that kind of stuff, there's something wrong with you, a healthy woman is educated and wise, a healthy woman can get angry and never have to use a bad word, never have to go out of character and you know she does. you have been doing. Cutting yourself, you don't know, you should like it, it's like a razor blade. Cut you, I know I've been cut, but where am I going to cut that? Then someone says, oh, you're bleeding, back there, she cut your back because she never has to go out. of character because she is educated and wise she listens to what the Bible says in proverbs 31 26 she opens her mouth with wisdom and on her tongue is the law of kindness letter g she helps others to heal letter h her self-esteem and let her feel look this this is big and I'll move on to the broken woman who feels in her heart she has nothing to prove she's not out here trying to prove to you nothing nothing nothing to you nothing to all of you she doesn't care what you all think that A healthy woman is not here trying to prove something.
No man can come into her life and play that game where you know he belittles her and belittles you. You know neither this nor that and you have it. stumbling because she doesn't live for anyone's approval, you can't leave her trapped in a trap without approval, she has nothing to prove to anyone, okay number two, the broken woman, now the broken woman is usually a victim of toxic masculinity of which I spoke that already and the intentional process ofconditioning of female slaves we have a generation of broken women who have been destroyed by men we have a generation of generations of broken women who have been destroyed by men sometimes from their fathers to their boyfriends, to their husbands and their children the Holy Spirit gave it to me like that a few years ago he said that men are the dispensers of pain while women are its containers and let me just take you to the scriptures.
I'm not going to be here tonight. I just won't do it. Everyone has to help me. I'm getting wordy in John chapter 8 verses 3 to 11 I want you to see something very clear regarding the broken woman listen to what she says and the scribes and Pharisees brought to her talking about Jesus a woman caught in adultery and when they when they put her in the middle they tell her teacher this woman was caught in adultery look at this in the same act we caught her in the same act of adultery sleeping with a man who is not her husband now moses in the law ordered us that such a one should be stoned but you say this they said tempting him so that They had to accuse him but Jesus bowed down and with his finger wrote on the ground as if he did not hear them, so as they continued to ask him, he stood up and told them, "He who is without sin among you, let him first throw the stone at him" and again he bowed and he wrote on the ground and those who heard this being condemned by their own conscience went out one by one, starting from the oldest to the last and Jesus was left alone and the woman who was in the middle when Jesus got up and saw no one, But the woman said to his wife, where are these your accusers?
No man has condemned you she said no man sir and Jesus said to her and neither have I. I condemn you, go away and sin no more now what I want you to see here is that this is a great reflection of society this is a great reflection of society they take this woman they say they were caught in very active adultery the first thing What I want you to see is that they brought her but they didn't bring the man if she was surprised in the same act, where is the guy, eh, where is the guy?
They take her in a very public way and degrade her in front of Jesus and whoever was there, that is the conditioning process of female slaves, that is the process of creating a broken consciousness. The more a perverted male society breaks a woman's conscience, the more malleable she will be to the desires of the perverted male society and then when Jesus looks up and says now, whichever of you is without sin, throw the first stone at her. and they all left because they were condemned. Well, the broken consciousness of women is created by a perverted male society that wants to hear what I am saying that the desires to totally sexualize women in this part of society want nothing to do with the brilliance of women. , you know, forgetting the fact that I think even science almost supports the fact that women in many cases are more cerebral than us that women can do multiple things at the same time this society doesn't care about the spiritual components of woman this society wants to break women to the point that woman sees herself purely as a sexual object and to the point that she sees herself and her value only in terms of sex because this society wants use the woman's body.
We talked about that the other day. Misogyny is a hatred of women, but most misogynists desire a woman's body while hating the woman herself. Now let me tell you. the characteristics of a broken woman because you see, you have to understand this, all the twists and turns that you go through in these so-called relationships, I call them situation chips, they are intentional, that's why I tell you everything that you don't If you didn't eliminate the last three so-called men that you chose, it is time for you to stop, it is simply time for you to stop and pause and allow your soul to be cleansed and purged of all that is garbage. because every time you go through one of these cycles with a toxic man who intentionally breaks you, the damage only gets worse, the damage only gets worse, you like an athlete who broke his ankle and you still want to play with him, you can't. keep playing you gotta sit on the bench you gotta go home and heal you gotta take off this season 'cause you're constantly broken and you know you're broken listen to what I'm saying you know you're a broken woman when you keep coming back to the same predator you know you're broken listen the characteristics of a broken woman is plagued with guilt is plagued with guilt has she has um just oh my god she's to blame that's just managing her life, you know, I just have to talk to women everywhere I go it's like I don't know It's almost like uh it's almost like somewhere you've been trained as a woman where you have to be perfect it's like you have to be perfect and it's like if I'm less than perfect I'm worthless you know I'm not human I can't make mistakes and when you make mistakes it's like you just carry this burden of guilt and it's like guys, it's like we can let you know mistake, in fact sometimes any mistake we are doing intentionally and let them sleep well at night just snoring and drooling all over the pillar, you know what?
I say it, but it's like with women, it's like when, when, when, when there's this broken conscience, it's like the guilt is like having a field day, letter b, you struggle with low self-esteem, you know, I don't even You can't even receive a compliment. Can't, no, can't you even take a compliment? You're embarrassed that someone tells you that you're handsome because you had some fool who lied to you and broke you and told you You're not everything that anyone else would want you to be and all that and you took those things seriously because anything a man exposes a woman to she takes on the characteristic features of a broken woman, a card that is riddled with guilt, she let it be, she fights. with low self-esteem, let's see that she lives to impress, that she always needs approval, she always needs approval, she wants a man's approval and the sad thing about it is that, um, she sees his brokenness and it makes him see sexual attention. as approval, so if a guy doesn't respond to her in a sexual way, she sees that as a failure, so if a guy comes up to you and you know he's interested, but he's not, it's not clearly sexual, you know, you know all this . beer if he doesn't come out of that type of energy she feels uninterrupted he is not interested when the reality is a healthy man is trying to explore your internal aspects he clearly your external is beautiful but he is searching, he is searching for something long term, so he needs to know what's in your head, what's in your heart, but when you're broken, you misunderstand him, like he's not interested, and then you go down the street and become a fool, you know? that's going on all these different antics and everything and you see it as approval yelling at you across the street calling everyone just talking under your clothes and you tell me stop, stop, stop, hurry up and stop, keep going, hurry up. keep going lyrics e she uses sexuality as a strategy for success when a woman is broken she uses sex she uses her sexuality as a strategy for success because her brokenness makes her believe that she has nothing more to offer so she offers her body that's why you know yourself you haven't you've had as many sexual partners as you've had because you're morally exhausted you've been broken you've been broken that's why you've had more sexual partners than you're comfortable talking about it's because you've been broken and now you're struggling with all this guilt because you made mistakes and many times I don't even know if you can call it a mistake as it could have been a trap they lured you into. they take advantage of you and they take advantage of you, you know that really, in many cases, you could consider yourself a victim, okay, let's look at something here, um letter e, she uses sexuality as a success strategy, letter f, she equates the personal value with relationship status, that's why she is never a broken woman, you never see a period of time if you follow her, her timeline on social media, you don't see a long period of time where she is alone, she she ran out of toxic and some of these some of these The guys are so toxic that you can just look at the photo, you call it profiling, if you want, you can look at the photo and tell this guy here full of demons and then she went back there six months later and it looked the same again, maybe even.
She seems crazy because she equates personal worth with marital status, so for her you know it's the end of the world to say "I am, I am", I'm saying for myself that I don't have anyone right now, so she just tells him gives a clown. after another after another letter g she tolerates disrespect see if you sit there and just tolerate and lack respect broken you don't let a man talk to you in no way talk to you crazy and in no way am I telling you that you are supposed to that we should be strong and, you know, try to go toe to toe with no man.
You can't do that, at least most of you, can you take some of your women out? They can yell at a man, but. most of you can't yell at any man, so I wouldn't recommend you go toe-to-toe with any man, but I would advise you that if a man is disrespectful because you love yourselves, come on, now you have to do it. draw the line and home is supposed to be looking for you come on now because you can't tolerate if you tolerate and disrespect yourself it's a sign that you're broken letter h she struggles to know the difference between toxic and healthy men i had a I thought that I was going to develop in relation to all of you and, you know, in relation to all of you, telling myself, "There are no good men here, I can't find him, I can't find a good man and then I say good." You know, number one, have you been available?
You know, if the right man comes along, most of you haven't been available, then I say, okay, well, we have to look at this thing you guys called, type in my guy, well, bishop, you know he. Wasn't he my type? Well, what does that mean? Usually when we put that thing down, we're talking about rapidly changing physicality, and as I reflect on this, you know the broken woman can't tell the difference between toxic and healthy. men, because you can never know the content of a thing by the packaging that you have to have, you have to have the awareness to know how to unpack it and see what you are really working with and what happens is that here it is, here is the thing that many all you guys out of the side of your mouth say I'm looking for my soul made in the holy spirit you told me no you're not really looking for a soul mate you're looking for an ego partner because you're trying to choose a man with your ego you see you want a man for the gram, you don't want a man for, you know, life, you want a man for the gram, you don't want a man who will build you and create you, you know a kingdom with you it's your ego choosing this man that's why you say he has to being sixty years old and having to earn six and seven figures and that is talking about the ego, that is talking about the ego and what the ego does is that the ego drags you towards everything toxic, that's why you keep You keep choosing these cats and you keep getting the same result because your ego keeps driving you to everything poisonous and you keep failing and I'll let everyone tell me there are no good guys here, I'm not going to do it.
Let me tell myself that I'm not going to let you tell me that because I know it's a lie. I only know that there are many men who are prepared to love a broken woman and that a broken woman is not healthy enough to recognize the value that she has. that man is that's all I have to say that's all I have to say that's all I have to say see you I almost called someone but I won't now the broken woman must stop seeking healing listen to this very statement carefully the broken woman must stop seeking healing in the hands of the people who broke you the broken woman keeps returning to the same man or one like him who broke you in the beginning you have to stop you have to stop looking for healing you have to stop looking, you have to stop seeking closure from the person who opened the wound, what ultimately has to happen is that as a broken woman you have to submit and surrender to God, everyone should give me another thousand likes on this man. got 900 likes on this we have over 2000 people come on man come on there's some good stuff here a broken woman the broken woman's main source of healing is God and then she needs she needs some really good counseling.
I'm not talking about that kind of church counseling where you just go and someone reads you some scriptures and then you tell yourself everything will be okay, no, I'm talking about someone who knows how to dig deep into your situation and help you see how you process and those things and see how your childhood created paradigms in your thinking that make you susceptible to this type of behavior and this type of individual so that you can begin to unravel those things and begin to heal because broken women can become healthy women that is why the The Bible says in Psalms 34, 18 and 19, the Lord is close to those with a broken heart and saves those with a contrite spirit.
Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but God delivers him from them all. God is the answer to the situation of the broken woman. now let me let me deal with number three the toxic woman and then we'll get out of here I have four minutes the toxic woman is not only brokenshe is angry she is angry and bitter the toxic woman lives to manipulate and destroy her community she will destroy her spouse her boyfriend will destroy his girlfriend he will destroy her own children she lives to manipulate and destroy her community she is self-absorbed and highly deceptive toxic woman many times to be honest with you is the cause of many broken men who become toxic men sometimes you have a very good guy who falls into the hands of a toxic woman for whatever reason she is at this level we don't I don't know and she takes and abuses that man and she breaks that man and then you start hearing the language like I don't trust any women, I don't know women, they're not this and women aren't that good when you when you really dig into the life of that guy, you find out that that guy was torn apart by a woman he really loved and trusted and she didn't love him, abused him, took his money, abused him, embarrassed him, etc.
Now he's on a mission to be a toxic man, now he's on a mission to make every woman's life a living hell, so all he wants to do now is sleep with a woman, never commit to her, and drag a woman right when you do a deep dive. when you dig into that guy's background, there was a toxic woman somewhere in many cases who broke that guy and now what you get is the revenge of the nerd who has never been loved by any woman before until now, you have the revenge. from the nerd, now you know, he learned to put on his clothes and all that kind of stuff and to speak in his voice a little deeper and to be a little soft and all this kind of stuff and now he misuses it. women because okay, let me show you what you know, the main biblical example of the toxic woman is Jezebel, who in my opinion is one of the most important biblical figures of narcissists and I think I think many toxic women are narcissists.
They are consumed self-absorbed they will abuse they will abuse their friends their parents their lovers will do it and in 1 kings 19 and 2 it says then Jezebel sent a message to Elijah telling him so that the gods make me and even more so if I Don't make your life like the life of one of them this time tomorrow she is angry at the prophet Elijah because he just defeated her and all her false prophets and she is talking to this guy as if she herself were a man. Now let's look at the characteristics of a toxic woman she hates men letter a she hates men write below the letter a write proverbs 6 24-26 and says there to keep you from the evil woman from the flattery of a woman's tongue Strange, you will not covet her beauty and your heart will not let you be taken with her eyelids.
She is beautiful and very sensual because through a woman the man is led to a piece of bread and the adulteress will hunt the precious life that she hates. men letter b she poisons her community with negativity a toxic woman is negative negative negative she has negative energy she has negative comments she has nothing good to say let us see she uses her influence to control she is a manipulator letter d she is dominant look there is a difference there is a difference between being a boss an assertive woman versus being dominant a dominant woman wants to come in and subjugate the man and turn him into a child and manage and manipulate him she is dominant wherever you put her she is dominant she is dominant she is a toxic woman she is dominant you know, she, you know, she almost says something when you say that letter d, a letter e, she keeps the conflict, she will keep the conflict at all costs and I'm almost done, let me read these final scriptures and then I'll get out of here.
We will continue this discussion another time Proverbs 25 24 says that it is better to live in a corner of the roof than with a quarrelsome woman and in a large house, in other words it says that it is better to live on the roof than to live in a mansion with angry old toxic fighters bad strong woman proverbs 7 21-23 with a very fair speech she made him give in with the flattery of her lips she forced him she is a manipulator she can even use her language to manipulate she is almost like the female version of the toxic man she knows how to use the language to force people to do whatever by subjugating people to whatever she desires verse 22 says he goes after her in a straight line as the ox goes to the slaughter or as food to the correction of the stalks until it is Darkness crosses his liver like a bird rushes him towards the trap and he does not know that it is for his life now this is the sad thing this is the sad thing for my young kings you feel attracted when you are not mature spiritually and emotionally attracted to toxic women it goes in both ways you go through this is for my kings now you go through a decent woman wife material and you land on a toxic woman because she will do everything in her power to attract your visual she is going to be sensual and she will flatter you and go up position you in a place where he should get you out of your house with your wife and then once he's gotten everything he needs from you he'll expose you because I want to see him burn to the ground anyway, that's a toxic woman.
All I can, you have, you have to leave it in God's hands, as I told women the other day, there is nothing a woman can do for any toxic man there is nothing any man can do for any toxic woman except leave it in the hands of god and you know who knows what god would do but I do know one thing, there is nothing you and I can do about it any toxic woman and I have been around a few in my life so there are my little ones thoughts on this, everyone I hope you got something out of this, uh, I don't know why it's been so long, father, we thank you tonight for this time we've been together, my prayers, dear God, are that you'll make the revelation come to their hearts and make all of us, their god, live in a higher dimension of wisdom.
Let something said dear God make an adjustment in the hearts of your people tonight in the name of Jesus amen amen amen listen y'all know the drill go to my website rcblix.com sign up for my mailing list um also while If you are there, don't forget to stop by and look at my online programs right now, my online programs are like 66 off, they really are and I want everyone to take advantage of them, thank you all, thank you to everyone who planted in my life tonight, Lisa and I really appreciate it. You guys, we love you, I'm sure Lisa was here talking to all of you.
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