Girl Chat: If You Propose and She Says No, Is the Relationship Over?
ladies I got something good today I saw a meme and I want to get your opinion on it take a look at it ass for men if you
saysno is the
relationshipover oh you know do you think if a woman rejects a man's proposal is there a chance of saving the
relationshipI think it depends on how long they they have been together yes right cuz if you've been together for I think past like five years and she
saysno there's like well what are you doing Yeah right what is she waiting for but if he asks maybe like maybe after dating after year or two I know for me I want to get to know really know the person that I'm gonna marry yeah so I don't think it would be a problem yeah if she said it yeah right gosh if a man was really mature he's got to know that if a woman
saysno there's got to be reasons behind it right and a lot of times just like God sometimes he's not saying no he's just saying not now you know what I think you're I'm tripping if a guy asks a
girloh please hey it's for a man to get on one knee and do that and what do you sometimes do soon yeah what do you say why I say no it's it's a wrap really you are dying yes because if she's playing waste this time in 2017 but she's not wasting his time if they've only been dating for like a year or two yes or maybe she's not ready just because she has to deal with herself women just never want to get married at all maybe it was not something that...
they want well it depends on how she
saysno because I remember watching this flip this basketball game uh-huh and it was halftime and the man was like he had cheerleaders and he was in a box and the woman didn't know right and it had the mascot and everybody yeah and so they had her come up like he was surprised on this yeah he came out the box they had a ring when I tell you she is probably still running out to state my goodness and so witness that type of proposal and she said no I think it's over but I think if you make it like because first of all you kind of know what somebody gonna ask you to marry now right usually about it that's another thing I think the couples should definitely be at a place where they've talked about whether or not they drew into getting married but do all couples do that I don't think so sometimes men just like to surprise any single man in the audience any single man day okay a married man cuz I want a man's opinion about this yeah okay how do you feel about this if a man who falls us to a woman and she
saysno is the
relationshipover not necessarily yep it all depends what type of woman who was I was talking to Bibles after you I'll still be pursued it's the quality that I'm looking for it depends how much it's the quality that I'm looking for not just your package so if she said no but how many times you gonna hear no from him well you don't maybe once or twice at least okay and twice yes is a...
virtue because at the end of the day sir I would think that you know if she's worth asking if she was willing to commit to you for the rest of her life then you're willing to wait until she's ready am i right well how much time do you have I got as much time as I need to make sure I'm an appropriate whiteford that man all right but now here we go now if I'm pursuing you and I put everything I lay down everyone I put my black book down all right and a whole book down yes yes other
girls they not no come on yes no I don't have a whole lot of time if I give you my heart from the beginning and you turn it down I need to run but wait you're contradicting yourself because if you don't think if you don't want me if someone that's it that does right what are you saying if she wants to be with him but she's just not ready he is willing to wait if you are saying no because you just don't want to be with them but have you ever said yes to an engagement that you maybe knew deep down in your heart maybe wasn't the best decision yes that's why I got divorced in six months about that Wow no that's right you think from a place of I've been there I don't know where I think sometimes people say yes for the wrong reasons and I think if you're honest with yourself and you when you've been with someone for a really long time and maybe it's something that seemed like the next thing and everybody around you is like...
well when are you guys gonna get engaged and you almost know well it hasn't naturally happened between us because maybe we're really not there mm-hmm and I think as a woman sometimes you say yes because I know and I know if you've never been there you're not gonna understand what I'm saying but try to empathize a little bit you almost feel like you deserve to say yes oh you feel pressure to say you know no it's know you feel like you um you invested so much time that it almost will be ashamed not to say yes I think I understand what you feel like it's a waste of time like I spent all these years with this person and if I don't at least maybe try and say yes or see if maybe if maybe even the engagement will change already have going on a lot of years to you though being engaged because sometimes people have a different number in their head what's a lot of years where you feel like okay I've invested like six year long time baby six he is dating he I dated out him for six years and I didn't want to be engaged when we first started dating just after year one year two because I believe there's that infatuation stage for sure and I wanted to really really know the man that I was gonna marry yeah and that you met Adam and started dating you started dating at meeting yes yes yes when you know somebody four years before the dating to yours is longer yeah how long did you know I knew a year before dating got it and then dating for five...
years when did you know because I think a woman always knows this when did you know that it wasn't right but then you kept on in the
relationshipdo you want me now second why I act no I had to think about it if I'm being honest I don't want to just spew out some no it's not really truth yeah um man I think I think I knew when I moved across the country and we didn't need each other in that way and I think at some point it almost can become almost a saving grace like let's try to maybe if we do this does that make sense don't that's real talk cuz a lot of people need to ya hear that you can learn from why are you engaged and then like why do people get engaged and then not get go through it yes guys these things happen yeah your segment yeah you know it's hard to explain that because there's multiple things you never know what happens in the inside of a
relationshipyou could see things from the outside and people try and I think it always is best to try but you always know when you should always follow your heart and you'll never walk down an aisle with somebody that you're not like a saying that's what engagement is for that's a bad time that's the purpose of it to see like okay are we right for each other or are we not and I applaud women who recognize when it's not and break it off instead of going through with it as you either cry it out or you'll cry later I want to say I'm really about this topic...
because unless you've been through it you will not understand Oh heart six but it's a very interesting pressure that's placed upon you either in a good way or in a very anxious way when you get
proposed to a lot of factors lead up and that's why I love our
chats because we talk about how what you should do when you've done it in order to get to the marriage that should be the one of your dreams you know how you should talk about marriage in this case but when that man goes through so much to produce the ring get down on his knee maybe talk to your parents maybe create some type of scene so that the proposal goes just right we're not do so much and you know that this wasn't thought out right whatever it may be but when he gets out his knee you all of a sudden have this overwhelming pressure to make sure you don't hurt his feelings I remember I don't remember what year it was but I remember one year for New Year's Eve when my
proposed to on MTV and it was way before Carmelo right wait way beyond that and I was spread I was on TV yeah live on TV on MTV on MTV yes live on MTV for a New Year's party and we I was looking at her and it was in front of everybody and I just watched her face and it was such a overwhelming moment and we all were so young I just looked at her like oh my god what's she gonna say and of course she said yes and later on she's talked about this she realized that she well she didn't...
want to hurt his feelings and I never really quite understood that but I also knew that if I was in the same position I'd probably do the same thing until actually Freddy
proposed when Freddy
proposed let me get this straight that when we were dating I knew from the get-go that he was husband material I knew that I wanted to how you meet them and know it I knew it immediately yes however when he
proposed it was in front of my family and I oh I kind of wished that I could say yes because for me I was only 27 28 years old I hadn't gotten myself straightened out and now knowing myself today I just wish I had a little bit more time to mature because I kind of dragged him through my maturity through our first years of marriage and he knows I come from a broken marriage he knows that I have had you know inconsistent examples of love in my life so I needed to turn 30 now I realize cuz all my women out there who have turned 30 you know how 30 is so dirty is like 29 right yes Mazar che betray me how much you change yeah so if I have just been able to kind of pause and I do this because you remember out of this world Evy yes if I could just pause and just go let's just just give me some time to get better because I want to be as right for you as you are for me but I thought where you are right now for me I would have enjoyed our first years of marriage so much more so I applaud any woman out there who is able to use her voice and just in whatever way she needs to say not...
now well it doesn't mean you don't love them unless it means you actually love them more yes prevent oh so I have a question because when you did say yes to him why did you say yes because I saw a man who was so ready and he had prepared all my family in front of us and my parents were weeping beside us my brothers had put together a beautiful video depicting all of our love and I looked in his eyes and in that moment I felt so safe and secure that I said yes because I knew he would lead us through it but in a yes and that's amazing and we did beat us to it yeah buddy if we're gonna be real yeah our first years were very hard yeah now I ask you that because sometimes a man can ask you to marry him when they know they're in trouble see that's what happened to me I've been asked about four times right this is no this is real right see it was Lonnie that was engaged four times not me but I remember it was the second time it was the second dude that asked me to marry him we have been together for like three years and then he did something that I was like I'm done and then he came back and then that's when he asked me to marry him and I was like hey no I'm not marrying you so sometimes a guy can ask you because he know he's messed up yeah but so much and that's why sometimes a woman can say no that's a laugh saving grace that yeah you know this
girlis out the door you keep losing her just a little bit more and I think sometimes...
guys recognize that and they're like dang let me just try to man we just go hey anyway na yeah na player yeah public when did we talk on this thing if anybody watched our show from the beginning and we're gonna be real it was a lot it was a lot of when you gonna get married and like it was a lot yeah I think you ideally yeah I personally felt that she was pressured got it I mean if I'm gonna be honest with my own Akio I have to almost feel sorry for him as well yeah you know that's a it's a public show if you don't think somebody walk up somebody eight when you're gonna air gonna marry her right yeah it's a lie yeah you know and that unveiling in front of everybody you got random people tweet of you telling you what you should do with your
relationshipwhen they don't even know you it is a lot a lot and I know we're speaking to somebody out there yes is maybe engaged right now and yeah not listening to that voice do what's right because you never have to rush for anybody else yes and when it's right you will know with it if you absolutely know it in your gut in your heart you'll feel peace that no one else maybe understands but you will absolutely feel peace and and marriage marriage is no joke because even when you're happily married you're gonna go through so can you imagine if you're unhappily married and you're going through so don't do it if you know it's not right yep please don't or do what...
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