Get rid of these 3 things to feel BETTER about yourself today!!

Well, I got this email the other day and it completely stopped me. I would never buy new clothes. I thought I didn't deserve it and he was going to reward me with new clothes when I lost weight, which never happened. I decided to get rid of it. Anything that didn't fit perfectly and that I didn't love, I bought three new shirts to rotate on Sundays, my husband even gave me a compliment and I've felt great and it's so liberating to know that I love each and every thing. The

things

in my closet

feel

good enough to not punish myself for not losing weight, but I needed permission to do this and you gave me this.

Oh, it's like, Oh, it's so good, so

today

I think there are three areas that you might need. Excuse me, maybe you need to stop beating

yourself

up, so I'm going to talk about three

things

that I think it's time to get rid of once and for all and put a new spin on the sentimental elements. Hi, I'm Don from the minimal mom. I love seeing your emails and your comments and I know you often thank me for some of the ideas I've shared, but I'm so grateful for you and it really

feel

s like a privilege that we can continue this.

We travel together and learn some of these things we were never taught. They didn't teach us this in high school, like how to deal with all the junk in your house, so we can make our way. this together and also share some of these things that are really transformative and the ways that we need to free ourselves and stop punishing ourselves when Diane and I were working in radio, we had this therapist, this family therapist who went on the air with us on Tuesday nights. morning and he would answer questions about parenting and relationships, he was very good, but one of the things he always said was that you need to be kinder to

yourself

, you need to be kind to yourself and I just remember thinking like Jim, that sounds like it. kind of cheesy, like you would say it all the time, you need to be kinder to yourself and I sure mean it's cheesy, right, we're tough, especially for women who see this, we're tough, we're capable, we're capable. but I've been thinking about his words a lot more lately and, as you know, we need to be kinder to ourselves.

I also know that for many of us there is simply a loss that we are dealing with, there are so many things that we have. We're dealing with this moment and we need to be kind to ourselves, so

today

let's talk about how we can be kind to ourselves in regards to these three areas, be kind to ourselves, give ourselves a break, but also get these things out of our minds. home. It makes us feel bad about ourselves because none of us need that, so there are three areas that I want to talk about today that I think we punish ourselves, we punish ourselves, we hold ourselves captive, I guess in a way that I don't want to overdo it. , but I really think this is true: one is clothes we want to wear again, the second thing is with hobby things because sometimes we spend a lot of money on it and the third thing is with sentimental items, so let's start with clothes.

So this email from Joanna really resonated with me because I totally remember thinking that if she somehow put away the clothes that were too small for me, that would motivate me, so let's set the record straight once and for all. that doesn't fit us, it doesn't motivate us, it doesn't motivate us, I mean, if it motivates you, then you've already gone back down to that size and you're wearing them again, so if you're the person that's motivated by that's great for you , but you're probably already there, so you no longer need those clothes to motivate you.

For most of us, it doesn't motivate us, but what it does do is make us feel bad about ourselves over and over again. None of us need that and that's why I'm so proud of Joanna that she finally said, enough is enough, I'm worth it, so by getting rid of these things that don't fit what we say, I'm worth it. I have things that fit me, the other thing that keeping those clothes does is that it doesn't put money back in our pocket, we don't get back the money we spent on it, so we are not gaining in any way financially from it and sometimes That's the argument, right, I spent money on it, we're not getting money back, but what we're doing is messing up our closets, our dressers, and our rooms, and that's why today I want to encourage you that I know hope like I do.

I know I understand the flawed logic behind why we keep this stuff, but today I hope to give you permission just like Joanna did to get rid of that stuff. You don't have to completely remove them from your house if you want to put them in a storage container because maybe you're hoping that once this virus goes away or you know some normalcy is coming back, you'll be able to lose weight again, that's totally fine. , but don't keep it in your closet, put it in a container, store it. and don't look at it every day, go ahead and buy one, two or three pieces that fit you.

I'm not talking about an entire wardrobe because when you buy clothes that fit well, what you're not doing is you're not saying that I'm committed to this being the size I'm going to be for the rest of my life because I bought two shirts from that size. You're not saying that I'm now doomed to be this size for the rest of my life because I bought two shirts, that's not what's happening, right? You're just saying, hey, if I have the chance to go out in public, I deserve feel good about myself and I want the people I'm with, I want to feel like they are Thinking good things about myself too, it's not just about clothes, but we know how clothes make us feel and therefore we all deserve to have at minus some things that we feel good about now, that's talking about things when we go. outside the home, I also encourage you to have things to wear at home that you feel good about, this was probably even the biggest obstacle for me, you know, being a stay at home mom, little kids, we all do that.

Sorry, well, you're going to get spit on anyway, right, but have things that you even feel good about wearing around the house. I think that's just as important as having nice things to wear when we go out. The second thing is hobby things. craft supplies yarn my mom likes to stamp with rubber here let me show you one of the cards she made it's not that pretty so she likes to stamp with rubber and then she makes amazing cards but even what she's noticed lately is that when you just purchase all this inventory includes stamps, stamp sets and papers, and if you like scrapbooking, crocheting, sewing, quilting, I mean, you know exactly how you like it, you get more things and more things and you go on to people on youtube and facebook and then they are always promoting other products that you should buy and that's why she had a whole room like that.

Her dream was to have a small room where she could set everything up and then she realized that she didn't like the room and she didn't want to. She went up to the room and enjoyed it more when it was a small, manageable amount, so now she has significantly simplified all of her craft supplies and is making more cards than ever. It's been super fun, so I know when we spend. money on these things we punish ourselves because I can't get rid of them do you know how much money I spent on that? that the only way to do it right is to use the things, but unfortunately many of us, when we bought the things, we couldn't see the future, that we were going to have energy limitations, that we were going to have physical things that would come up and that we wouldn't. would allow us to have so much time to devote to it or we would end up being caregivers or other things that have taken up a lot of our time or our taste would change and maybe we wouldn't be as interested in it.

We didn't know the future well anymore and therefore, by keeping these things, it doesn't do it again, it doesn't put the money back into our account, it doesn't magically free up time in our schedule to be able to do it or give us more energy to be able to do it and therefore that I really want to encourage you uh my mom found a lot of places to donate her stuff to different retirement centers or other places you know where adults can go spend time and just hang out so she donated a lot of stuff to places like that or you can go to the market and sell it, but I just want to encourage you that keeping it doesn't mean it's right.

I mean, now you know because how long has it been? Those things have been there, no one uses them or appreciates them, at least we could pass them on to someone who will use them and enjoy them even like the grandchildren, even you know, my mom is giving the girls tons of paper. love and especially when she sends it in little pieces you know you don't like dumping boxes on your grandkids, but when you send little pieces at a time or make little bags of things to send, it's super fun and Christmas is coming up. maybe you can make some craft kits, so you've heard me say this similar term before, but it's like use it or lose it, if you don't have a plan to use it in the next few months, let's lose it and we don't have to. keep keeping it and storing it and remembering the money we spent on it and then the last thing I think you need to be a little kinder to yourself is the sentimental items this is hard because it's so complex because we all have different relationships with the people they left things.

I know there's a lot of you that have things from your parents, uh, children, other loved ones that you were very close with and you know, logically, you know that things. Isn't the person right that by keeping things you can't get the person back? That memories are not physically linked to things, but it is still very difficult to separate from them and so what I want to encourage you is that Unfortunately, we often think that if we keep things then at least we won't have to deal with the guilt of getting rid of them or thinking that they wanted us to keep them and we don't, but unfortunately many times you are simply exchanging one type of guilt for another, like when you discover that it is in storage but something happened to it, it is rotten or damaged, or rodents, insects or water have gotten in, or you are already thinking about your own estate plans and knowing that your adult children don't want you and that now you will be a burden on them, so what I want to encourage you is that I know as a millennial and I still don't I like that.

I would like to call myself that, but we have all been accused of not being sentimental or not caring about things in the past, but what I want to encourage you is that the reason we don't is often because we don't know why. We're supposed to worry about that, we don't really know why those things were special and so even now our own parents are going through estate planning, which has caused us to now have some of these conversations about their things and who gets what. You know all those fun conversations, but Diana and I were talking about it because we were okay, our parents and our grandparents have an incredible legacy that they've left us of hard work and oh my gosh, I was talking to my mom and she said we should call him by the grace of God and hard work and that's why I was speaking today and I thought how do we commemorate this because there's not a single thing in his house that necessarily represents that, I mean his farm of course.

It's a huge legacy, but there's nothing in particular that we would pass on to the grandchildren or even her and I that we would have in our house that would commemorate that right, so we thought, oh my gosh, we should make a video about this like We should sit my parents down and talk to them about this as if it were right and also listen to the stories of our grandparents like Diana and I were very fortunate that on my dad's side we were able to meet those grandparents and we love them. them and even hear some of them, but now it's been 15 years since they left, so even to hear some of those stories again from my dad's perspective, we never got to meet my mom's parents, so she sat and recorded stories. about them and tell us about them to talk about when my dad bought the farm from him and how they had nothing and how far they've gone with that, that would mean a lot to us and is there any way you can take this stuff? that you have acquired and that you could give meaning to your children not by keeping the physical object but by attaching the stories to it we love stories millennials love stories we want to hear the story behind it maybe we don't want the physical object, but we want to know where it came from came and who was linked to it, and there are also physical things that you have been saving that you could turn into a story.

Could you take pictures of it and then upload them to Shutterfly and make a book like writing, you know why it was important, could you just take your smartphone and start recording some videos on it while holding the things and then maybe it would feel good to part with Why don't you have those things anymore? you told the story, you're archiving it in a way that your children and your grandchildren can really be interested in it and again, I'm a little bit, I want to be careful with this because it may not be possible to do that for every item that was passed down.

Could you really choose the most important pieces or the most special pieces or the ones that have the best stories that go along with them that we wouldn't try to overwhelm ourselves by telling? history of eachelement, but knowing that some special stories would be great and that would really be something that your children and your grandchildren would cherish for a long time and that could be passed down over and over again, and that would be my encouragement around that, I know I know the intention. behind keeping the physical items is honoring these people who were so important to us, but I think it doesn't always achieve the goal we hope for and sometimes those physical items become a burden and that is not the intention.

That's not the point, so how can we take it and turn it into something that's really a treasure and an asset and something that we can pass on? I'd love to know if you have any thoughts on this or If you've done something like this, could you share it below because I know it would be helpful to others as well, um or someone like that? If there are any resources that would make this easier or something, please share them below. because that would be very helpful and in the words of our friend Jim, you should be kind to yourself, you deserve it and we would all want that so that you don't punish us because we are not the size we want to be.

We've spent money on things we've hoarded things from a loved one who passed away because we couldn't just couldn't bear to part with it okay it's like everyone I think we can all relate to at least one of these categories okay but you deserve to be free of that guilt and that shame and any of those other unpleasant feelings you've been feeling around you, so know that you can do this, it's not easy, take it. step by step, but I think there could be some really good stories that come out of this too, so I hope this helps.

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