Do THIS to Get Him Hooked in the EARLY STAGES of Dating | Matthew Hussey

Make your reaction to things something someone wants to experience. I don't think your power lies in having sex with a man. Your power is in what you do next. Having standards is trust. Knowing how to communicate them is competence. Manage your energy because you don't. To have unlimited energy, the first two weeks of attraction are actually very important because if we don't make a good impression, no one cares how good we will be in week four or month six, so here are four things you can do . To hook someone in the first two weeks, number one has a real date-only policy, it's pretty common these days as you know for a guy to try the Netflix date and relax before he wins it, so when a boy tells you, do you want? to come over later tonight we can tidy up and cuddle what I want you to send him is as much as I like a hug I'd rather go out into the world with someone first keeps it interesting number two buy the popcorn look, no I know if you think it's his job a man pay the day or not, but even if you believe that, there is a terrible mistake that many people make that relates to what I talk about here.

Let me tell you what anything means to a man who tries that. It means something to a man when he feels like you're not even trying to contribute, that's when he feels used because any man who is really confident and respects himself, if the woman doesn't even try to contribute, he feels like he's being taken advantage of. . and it has nothing to do with money, it has to do with the lack of gestures, it matters, it doesn't matter if he bought the movie and dinner that night, you just buy the popcorn or whatever the date equivalent is. the one you are tells him, firstly, I don't take you for granted and secondly, I'm sending you a subtle message that I'm a number three team player, get excited about the little things, being great isn't about indifference, I don't know.

Try to introduce yourself with a I've been there, I've done that attitude, I've done it all before, nothing impresses me, the good thing is the passion, the call is getting excited and about the little things, it doesn't even have to be the big things, It could be the place he took you to. Whatever the food you're eating, there's something on the menu that you're really excited about. It could just be a great cup of coffee. Anything that excites you sends a message to the person you're with. I am funny. Person to live life with. I know that every time I've been with someone who gets excited about things, I start thinking about the long list of things I want to do with them next because I can't wait to experience their reaction. making your reaction to things something someone wants to experience number four being an adult and picking up the phone so annoying waiting for people to text back wish someone would invent an app that actually let you talk in real time oh wait , alexander graham bell already did it, now I know people are probably furious hearing

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post because you're saying the problem is with men, they're the ones who don't answer the phone anymore, they're the ones who always text and No Don't bother with the old school ways of speaking, I say lead by example.

I'm not saying that you should be the one to call the guy all the time, but what I am saying is that the first call you make to a guy sets a precedent, sets a standard, lets him know that you are an adult and if he wants to go out with you. , he will have to have an adult relationship with you, so when you want to invite him to something, let's say you've been on two dates and on the third you want to invite him to something pick up the phone and invite him let's say you're on your way home from work and you're walking and you have five free minutes to pick up the phone and say hello, that moment when you talk to him on the phone tells him the standard you expect from him in return and it also gives him license to call you because a lot of guys don't even know they can or should do that when You call him and he tells him that it's also okay for you to call me in

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I'll give you three specific text messages that will get the guy you want to chase you. I've been helping women attract the men they want for almost 10 years and one question has always come up, but it's getting worse. Women say why men don't try anymore. They don't take me on real dates. Looks like they didn't really catch me. They don't go through that. the

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of attraction they really invest in is like they want a fast food

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diet, they just want to text me and wow we want guys to try again. Well, I have a fundamental belief that women today are the ones who get the best men. and not only the best men, but the best behavior of those men have two things on their side: one, they have standards that are higher than everyone else.

People think that if you have standards you're going to scare people, it's the opposite. attractive but not only do they have standards, they have the ability to communicate those standards to a man in an attractive way, that is the real skill, having standards is confidence, knowing how to communicate them is competence, the food industry has a term, a term called happiness . point, the happy point is the optimal level of salty and sweet in a food that makes you want more and they are trying to achieve this all the time, so think about nutella, think about peanut butter, boiled corn, what is it? the point of happiness that means even though you are getting full you are not satiated you still want more of that food well, I think there is a point of happiness in communication, an optimal level of salty and sweet that keeps you wanting more from a person , so if you achieve the point of happiness in Your communication with men.

A man can become addicted to you. He won't be able to leave you. I'm about to give you three scenarios that I know you've encountered before and the happiness point response to each one, the first one. The setting is the text of the date's deliberator. This is the guy who's undecided about what they're going to do on a date tonight, so he sends something like What are we doing tonight? To which your internal response is: "You decide, man, it's your job to figure it out." a plan just picks something but you don't want to seem pushy right now because he hasn't done anything really wrong so here's the happiness point answer as much as i love planning i think it would be more fun if you decide wink wow you see what you're doing there you're saying simultaneously i don't expect you to plan things forever but right now at this

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stage it would be fun if you took the initiative scenario 2 the homey text he sends there a cool bar on my side of the town for tonight, now you know that the last time you went on a date you came to his part of town, so somewhere inside you feel like he should be the one who should make the effort to come see you or at least meet you. halfway now once again, he hasn't done anything drastically wrong, but you'd like to use this moment to educate him to try a little harder, so instead of bottling up your feelings and going to his part of town anyway or take yourself too seriously.

By communicating this, you created this happiness point message, God, are you always so lazy? It's your turn to come to me, kissy face, what this shows is that you can criticize someone directly for their behavior, but you can do it in a playful and affectionate way. way that brings us to scenario number three, the day of the disappearance, this is when you have plans with a guy to see him on a date, but on the day of the day it is already past the point where it is acceptable for him not to have you. given the details yet so maybe it's one in the afternoon you said you were meeting tonight and he still hasn't sent you anything and maybe it's not because he's a bad guy maybe it's because he's been very busy or maybe he's out right now but he's still not really okay so you can be passive and just wait until he texts you or you can build this happiness point message.

Hey, should you assume we're not here tonight? I haven't heard from you and me. I have other things I would like to do if not, again, the beauty of this is that you are addressing him in a kind way while also having very high standards with your time, you are showing him that if he doesn't. In communicating with him, you will find something else to do now. Why do people hesitate before sending these messages? Because we are afraid that if we have a standard with someone, they will not see us and we might lose the opportunity to spend time with that person. tonight, so let me be brutally honest with you, these messages won't increase your chances of seeing the guy you want tonight, but they will radically increase your chances of him wanting you tomorrow. look at the happiness point, communication is not about short term gains, it is about long term attraction and if what you are looking for is to create a genuine and deep attraction that will make a guy love you not tonight but tomorrow week next month next year, it's about having the right standard and knowing how to communicate it, the beauty of what we've been talking about.

Today's thing is that communicating your standards and creating attraction are actually the same thing, so you had sex with him. Now many people think that once a man has sex with a woman, she relinquishes her power and he starts to lose interest, but I don't. Think that your power is in having sex with a man, your power is in what you do afterwards, so in this video I am going to talk to you about three things that will not only allow you to maintain your power, but will also make him want you more after sex. fact number one, don't be weird, many people wake up after having slept with someone in an intimate act and suddenly start acting really awkwardly, as if the intervening few hours of sleep had driven a giant gap between them. them and now, instead of being warm and loving they are a little cold and neurotic they are worried about their hair or their breath they are fighting over their clothes trying to make sure that person who just slept with them doesn't see their naked body it's a shame because in reality If we were calm, in good condition, happy and positive and had a playful vibe with that person in the morning, they would see us much more confident and in control, so in the morning, this is what you should do: give a small deadline.

You tell him I have to leave soon, I have a lot to do today and then you give him a big hug because then, when you are hugging him, he doesn't think about if this person is going to be here forever, is this going to be like this? It's awkward trying to figure out when I or she leaves. You've already put that marker in his mind, so you can just enjoy the affection and when you leave, give him a nice affectionate kiss. All of this, by the way, assumes that you really like the guy. If this guy is someone you really like, give him a nice, affectionate kiss, it's what you should do after you've slept with someone and then leave and go about your busy day.

Step number two later that day. Send a great text message. I'm coming. to read this text to you and then I'll tell you why it contains everything you need to say, I had a great time with you last night, good luck with your meeting today and then a little kiss on the face, why does this do what you need? the first thing you do is say that last night I had a great time with you a small act of vulnerability and femininity is a moment in which you can be honest with him too many people have a great time at school as if they don't care and in the process they dehumanize the entire act of intimacy that you just had with a person so when you say good luck in your meeting today with a kiss it is a moment in which it is personal you are saying something that is related to something of yours' I said that if you know that is doing something fun today, you could say have fun doing xyz today, whatever it is, take a moment to recognize something that is happening in your time.

The problem with the way so many people approach what they do after intimacy is that they become too vulnerable and too close to someone and suddenly now it's like they expect the relationship to have moved 10 steps forward because they slept with them. or they become too casual to the point where it seems like it didn't mean anything to I told you you slept together last night we want to strike that balance of being somewhere between the two just a little footnote to add here the worst thing a person can do is sending him a text saying "OMG I can't believe we did that." last night or I was so drunk last night or somehow making excuses for the fact that you slept together or hinting that we will regret it if we sleep with someone, especially if you like the person to own it without regrets and will see you as a result, it is sexier and safer.

Step three: don't settle for Netflix and relax. Go on now. He might text you a couple days later saying, "Hey, do you want to come watch a movie with me later? That's no good." He's a bad boy, he just makes him a boy. He's going the easy way and he wants to have sex with you again. Who can blame him? He's just a human being, but you want more. So, what do you say? You send him this message. I love to see youagain, but I really want to get to know you better and I feel like I know where coming to your house ends up.

Wink, how about we go to dinner now? The beauty of this message is that it shows that you want to see him again. but it restores the expectation, it takes away the right. Look, you two had sex, that doesn't mean he has the right to have sex with you again and it doesn't mean you have the right to more investment from him, but the distinction is if he wants to see you again, he has to. be more than just a physical connection, it has to be about building a real connection that takes time and investment and you wouldn't expect anything less if he doesn't want to put in that time. yinvestment is fine, you have your answer about how much he likes you, but you won't accept less look, the truth is that most people who watch this channel want a relationship relationships yes,

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, I don't want that right, that's the approach of the Most people's response to this is please anything but dating, I want a relationship, so how do you manage your energy so that the dating process, the part you do to get into a relationship, doesn't drain you before you get one? ?

Here are five ways to manage your energy in the process number one be careful about projecting your hopes and dreams onto the person you are on a date with so many people start dating someone they get too excited about that person they get excited about projecting them, not with them, how could they barely know this person and suddenly the stakes are high? It becomes very important that this goes well because after all this is the right person. You are projecting your hopes and dreams onto the person in front of you. You are a blank canvas on which you can put everything you have ever wanted in your love life.

When the stakes are so high, your adrenaline increases too, your energy starts to increase as you give more and more to this person, even if you don't. Don't show it to this person, just the anxiety that comes with having made them so important burns energy. Remember this: getting to know someone and knowing if they are really right for you is a slow process that happens through the accumulation of moments and experiences with this person. that slowly tells you that there is someone you could really build a relationship with, it's not something that happens overnight so relax, if you're in the

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of the process right now there's really nothing that you can lose.

Number two, the second way to manage your energy. is not giving everything of yourself immediately, we do this in one of two ways, either we give someone the best of us or we give someone the worst of us. Both are too much energy for where we are in the process on first dates. Now, giving someone the worst of us would mean showing them all our insecurities. Talk about our angry feelings towards our ex. About our last breakup. Talk about the intimacy problems we have because of something that happened to us in our lives. Basically, take all the hard things. in our life or in all the struggles we are currently having and placing them in front of the other person at an inappropriate time now giving our best is doing things for this person at this moment showing parts of ourselves giving an amount of energy that is not earned, it could be clearing our diary for someone who hasn't really earned it at this stage, it could be doing everything we can to offer them the best date when in reality we should be at a stage of getting to know them a little.

It could be better that they told us about a certain baked good they really like and you show up with the box at the next appointment. Someone once told me Matthew, just because you can cook a five-star gourmet meal, that's not the case. This doesn't mean you should do it for every person who knocks on your door. No one should get the best or worst in you right away. You should receive the appropriate amount for the stage you are at. Do this and you will have more energy to give to the right person in the right situation.

When it is proven that the number three does not give more than it gives reflects the amount of investment you are receiving from this person now, that does not mean that from time to time when for a while you can't step out of the dynamic you've created with this person to lead for a moment to show a little more energy or investment to see how they respond to that, that's fine if no one ever did it. you never move forward, so at some point someone has to bravely step out of the current dynamic; However, when you do, you have to look to see if that reflects on you, for example, if you texted someone in the morning saying good morning, how are you? you and that's not something either of you are used to doing for each other wait and see how this person responds the next day don't send the same message because otherwise you're now in a dynamic of doing that every day and continue investing every day without seeing if they are willing to do the same if they ever take the initiative let them come to you in equal amounts number four don't make them a priority before they have done the same for you you have to To do so, start prioritizing each other equally if someone doesn't talk to you for a couple of weeks and then out of the blue wants to see you in three hours.

Hey, what are you doing tonight? Do you want to come and do this? That's something you should do. inherently suspicious that, by the way, there is nothing wrong with accepting a spontaneous date, nothing wrong at all, from someone who has a track record and a track record of trying with you, from someone who has been investing, then it just becomes fun , romantic and spontaneous, but when someone who hasn't been trying to suddenly text us and wants us to make them a priority out of nowhere this requires something very different it doesn't mean ignoring them completely because ignoring someone doesn't communicate our standards which means is to respond with something that elegantly communicates that this is not enough for you, number five, to not approach you every time you crave attention, we have to make a clear distinction every time we approach someone, am I approaching you right now in a way? so that it is organic because I really have something to say or share some value to add to this person's day or I am reaching out simply because my ego my insecurity craves attention if the answer is the latter, that is a time to stop and divert your energy towards something more productive in your day something that is really going to move forward with that energy because this relationship will not move forward with that energy and we have to understand and this is simply understanding the ego understanding our own self-esteem which is a bottomless pit that needs attention ever. will be satiated, so even if you get a response from that person right now, in this moment, three hours from now you will feel the same thing again because tranquility doesn't last, what we need to do at that moment is take that energy and pour it into something that will truly enrich our lives, that will make us stronger and that will make us feel more confident in bringing back the person we want to attract.

Don't give energy because you are craving attention, give energy for a real connection now, if you want to know how to give energy in a way that creates a real connection, adds value, continue to build what you have with someone in a way that leads to a relationship, I talk about all of that in my show how to talk to men you don't even need to buy that show today because I'll give you a free episode just so you can try it out. You can go and download that free chapter in get free chapter point. com I hope you enjoyed this video.

I feel like this is really important, which is why a lot of our energy is wasted on dating and we don't have unlimited energy when we burn it off on the wrong people, it can leave us completely drained when people tell me I need to take a break or when the People tell me I'm exhausted, that's real, that's real, we can become completely exhausted when you've been dating someone for months or years giving them your best energy and it's just become a void. for the best parts of you and haven't been replenishing your wealth, you can come out of that feeling completely drained, exasperated, and drained in a way that makes you not want to approach the dating process for a while.

We have to protect ourselves from reaching that place and that is the objective of this video. Manage your energy because you don't have unlimited energy and when you meet the right person or the person who has the potential to be the right person at the right time. relationship we want to have our best energy to give at that moment you want to change your life go to this video now immediately the most attractive people in life are not the ones who are perfect my essence was already doing the work here all I What had to be done was further demonstrate that we are the greatest asset we will ever possess.

We are also the only asset we will always own.