Day 9 - LES BROWN - Self Commitment
commitmentshows up in your life through action you can tell people who are committed and those people who don't feel worthy the people that are committed are busy doing it the people that don't feel worthy of it like a guy I talked to last night who told me hey I sure like to do what you're doing however I just don't want the responsibility the company I work for they're taking good care of me I say let me tell you something once you increase your sense of worthiness you won't even be able to open your mouth saying that somebody is taking care of you you want to take care of your
selfbut see because he doesn't feel worthy he's intelligent 17 years from major corporation they've spent thousands of dollars training him he knows he has the book knowledge but his attitude is his vision of him
selfhis sense of deserving this says you can't have that so he will fabricate all kinds of excuses on why he can't have it Robert Anthony said something Bob Anthony said that you can only have two things in life reasons or results notice reasons don't count I like that folks will always point out reasons on why they are not living their dream on why they're not manifesting their greatness they will always be able to point those things out but none of those things count the only thing that counts are results and results don't lie ladies and gentlemen they tell it all judge a tree by the fruit that it bears not the ones that...
it might talk about not the ones that it might wish for or think about or firm about but the fruit that it actually bears so let us look I think that all of us are committed but I think that some of us are producing results in our lives that that level of
commitmentbrings that we particularly don't like or find distasteful I don't think that as a participant in life you cannot be committed you either commit it to mediocrity or you commit it to greatness you either committed to being productive or you're committed to being non-productive you're committed to being happy or you're committed to being unhappy see whatever you're doing however you spend your time that tells you who you are so think about what it is you like to create your life experience once I look at how you commit your time once I do an evaluation on how you spend your time I can tell you exactly what you're committed to people that say they have dreams that want to open a business or want to do something differently than what they're now doing they don't like their jobs are unhappy they're unfulfilled people say they want to improve their income level look at how they spend their time how they spend their time the
commitmentof their time how they use that that will really tell the truth people who said I'd like to do better but you don't find them in vocational or technical schools upgrading their skills and their knowledge how they spend their time that will...
tell you what's going on people who say they want to normalize their weight they want to be healthy but every time you see them they're eating that will tell you that they're committed to being obese for the rest of their lives people tell you they want to stop smoking and they're lighting up at that time focus say I want to stop drinking and every time you're in their face they're reeking with alcohol that will tell you what's going on don't have to listen to what they say just watch what they do
commitmentshows up in your life in what you do on the other hand you can make the
commitmentto your life that you don't like the results that you have and that you're going to do something about it see that power is available to all of us people who look at life and decide I want something different for my
selfCarol Hatfield Carol lives in Detroit single mother decided that she wanted to go into her own business did not have enough money to do it she wanted to have a health food store she sold her car and used the money to start in a little storefront a little hole in the wall she rode to work on a bicycle and then when she got enough money she she bought a motor scooter and did that for a long time she is now very successful person she now has three health food stores she said it was hard as a struggle less she said but I did it she said I made the
commitmentto do it and I did it why is it that people are frightened by
when you say the word
commitmentthat intimidates a lot of people why because it means you have to deliver see most people you ask him hey lookee I'd like you to do this they'll say I'll try I'll try means that is my escape clause when I don't come through it's really a polite note I don't have the courage to tell you no so I'll tell you I'll try Hey look yeah I need you to come to this meeting I'll try said what do you mean you're going to lean toward the meeting try and sit down you either do it you don't try and take this pencil out of my hand you either do or you don't it's no such thing as try so most people like to use that language they don't want to commit themselves because
commitmentmeans among many things no excuse is acceptable that's what it means no excuse that if you decided that you want to do this if it becomes hard then do it hard if it difficult so what if it's inconvenient so much they a lot of people made a
commitmentto come here tonight but they looked outside and said it's raining the temperature dropped it's cold outside and they decide to give up on their
commitmentand that's how people do about their dreams they don't honor their
commitmentto them so let me tell you what happens when you when you don't keep your
commitmentnumber one it begins to deplete your your
self-esteem and it erodes your
self-image it weakens your faith in your
selfyou don't feel...
good when you don't keep your
commitments the other thing is that you begin to develop weak relationships with people people begin to realize they can't depend upon you they can't rely on you because you won't keep your word you've established that kind of reputation just think what would your life be like if you decided to keep your
commitments what will all of our lives be like if we decided to keep our
commitments but we decided to do the things that we said that we were going to do that we wouldn't even speak it unless we were going to do it if we decided just for a week just see what your life can be like just let's do it for a
commitmentto make make it a seven-day
commitmentthat I won't say I will do anything unless I'm going to do it and find out what your life will be like let me tell you what if you follow it through if you keep your
commitmentat the end of the seven days you feel strong and powerful because by honoring your
commitmenteach time that you do that empowers you whatever discipline that is required whatever it is that you must do so I'm suggesting number one commit your
selfto live in the present I saw the movie um the dead port Society Robin Williams and had a La Nina seize the moment many of us are not able to move forward and develop and manifest our greatness because we spent so much time looking back or worrying about the future seize the moment see you cannot go into the future and...
manifest your greatness when you have various things in your life that's blocking you let's look at how we can begin to keep our
commitments remembering what dr. Robert Anthony said about results when you keep your
commitments you're able to produce some different kinds of results in your life so how can we keep our
commitments and do we keep all
commitments no we don't you will not be at 100% however you will have a greater percentage rate of maintaining your
commitments to your
selfwhatever those things might be if it's going into business if it's if it's changing a habit that you know that works against you if it's overcoming
self-destructive behavior if it's retraining your thinking if it's reinventing your
selfif it's trying to begin to design your relationship differently all of us have a possibility by focusing and really harnessing our attention and concentrating on it we really have available to us the power to honor our
commitments in those particular areas so number one make it priority see no one would go get on an airplane if you thought your chances of getting there to your destination we're as good as your luggage am I correct see and I say the reason that you will reach your destination more times in your luggage will is because the airline and I'm glad that they do has made it a priority to move the human beings from one point to the other safely not send you off to Boston or someplace with your luggage so...
I'm not really upset when my luggage doesn't show up I'm glad they delivered me because they've made me a priority see they have made delivering you to your destination important so if you want to honor your
commitmentwhatever you decide that you're going to do make sure you make it important make sure it is priority keep it before you the other thing is whatever that you want to do whatever you want to begin to create and beginning to manifest your greatness and and strengthening your level of
commitmentand it's really exercising your will find something that you want to do on your goal one action step but make sure it stretches you that it challenges you but it's durable that you can do it this year I decided that I was going to exercise so I started off doing just ten setups and ten push-ups I know I can do that and not get upset about it I can do that without thinking so I started out small now I'm up to fifty but if I try to do fifty starting out I wouldn't still be doing it so I started doing it in manageable segments do that and that that strengthens your will so my
commitmentnow is strengthened and fortified by the activity of actually doing it so now I can expand and build from there when I decided to begin to manage my money differently and I started saving 5% of my money then I increased it to 10% then to 15% so now I have disciplined my
selfto live off 75% of my income I took discipline to do that but I started watching how I...
was spending my money I start keeping a log and following my
selfso you want to begin to find something that is manageable that you know that you can do the next thing and beginning to to keep your
commitments to your
selfhave some friends that will hold you accountable that won't let you off the hook that won't tolerate anything less than the best from you people that will support you in this new way of being in this new state of consciousness the other thing is that important is have a contingency plan see many times when you make a
commitmentto do something there are some other variables that will happen that you can't control or you perhaps did not think about so you want to have some other plans going on you want to become creative see most people don't keep their
commitments because when something goes wrong they just stop they don't have a contingency plan so they don't know what to do next stop being creative if you challenge your
selfmany chapters say I don't know what to do and I always ask my
selfbut if you did know what to do less what will it be that activates another part of my mind I'll stop thinking about the possibilities and just experimenting but many many of us just stopped dead in our tracks I don't know what to do you don't know what to do you've got genius in you challengers have pushed your
selfcome up with something use your imagination and what you will find is that you know more than you...
realize that you know that you're more creative and more resourceful than you realize that you are and as you do that the more you do it the easier it will become at first is going to be a struggle and after you get into a certain level of consciousness you will ask your
selfhow is it that I didn't see this before at the level that I'm managing my business now they say consciousness is what we are I literally look at my
selfand say how is it that I didn't do this before why is it that I couldn't see this before and the reason that I didn't see it before because I didn't challenge my
selfI didn't put my
selfout here see the reason that most of us go through life never discovering our true greatness literally walking breathing corpses the uncommitted life isn't worth living why because it doesn't produce anything so you only make things happen your life only counts you only make a difference when you are committed when you make a
commitmentwith your life that's the people that make a
commitmentwith their lives the people that make a
commitmentto their customers the people that make a
commitmentto their families to their relationships are the people that make the greatest impact in life what is
commitmentas the salesmen who says look here I'm going to make a thousand dollars today and I'm not going home you can turn the lights out the generators could be here running the vacuum cleaner I'm not leaving here...
till I do it I used to be a door-to-door salesman I had X number of TVs I had a minimum amount that I knew I had to sell every day in order to provide for my mother who was ill at the time who'd lost her job at the M&M cafeteria because of arthritis and I said I'm going to go door to door and sometimes I would not come home until one o'clock at night knocking on people door people closing what do you want would you like to buy a nice working month's television set no money down no what about an emerson TV No thank you very much do you know anybody else that would be interested no thank you very kindly knock on another hello would you like to buy a nice working television set no money down no get away from our door thank you very kindly do you know anybody else would be yeah my cousin he lives two doors down thank you very kindly I tell him you sent me went ahead your cousin told me that you want to buy televisions that told me to come here and talk to you got a special discount for you yes come in I'm interested I would just keep right on I would not go home until I did it it's an interesting thing ladies and gentlemen that when we put ourselves in a situation where we say we're going to do it it puts you in another zone where the universe responds to you when you have that kind of consciousness see the universe responds to the man a woman that refuses to be denied because that is your
commitmentthat business that you want that book you want...
to write that dream that you have of controlling your destiny that is yours that power to create there and to manifest that that is yours that's available to you but you've got to be willing to stand there and face disappointment not have support be lonely doubt your
selfsometimes be rejected again and again and again become bankrupt if necessary again and again and again and refuse to turn around until life gives it up nothing can resist a person that has that kind of
commitmentthe people that have made a difference on the planet when a John F Kennedy said we will go to the moon and the next decade he spoke it that was a
commitmentand people shared that vision people bought into that we've had all kind of examples in history where people have made declarations who have committed their lives to bring about a difference there people are taking a stand today against hunger I guarantee you it will be a part of our past at some point in time someone took a stand against polio it no longer plagues us as it once did because someone said it is my
commitmentto eradicate it from the face of the earth someone made the
commitmentthe reason that we're here and enjoying the democracy that we have someone made a
commitmentthat whatever is required if it means that I die I remember Paul Robeson here I stand for I can do no other and that's how you must be
commitmentmeans standing up for your life it means honoring your
selfit means it means beginning to say and to...
see and recognize your alignment and oneness with the universe and that you are a channel for life to express through and we short-circuited with anger we short-circuited with fear we short-circuited with with envy we short-circuited by being lazy or apathetic or giving up easily why why why what's always too hard is too hard we don't challenge our spirit ladies and gentlemen there's nothing as powerful as the human spirit you can't destroy you can pervert it but you can't destroy I was reading man's search for meaning by Viktor Frankl what a powerful book I'm reading it now for the seventh time and he gives so many graphic examples of the power of the human spirit and so what are some of the things that can can fortify us and give us the kind of inner strength that will allow us to forward ourselves into the future by manifesting our
commitments number one
commitmentmeans in some cases going back to school getting some training sitting up in classes with people younger than you putting your
selfin a position where you don't know and that is awkward and uncomfortable but because of your
commitmentto develop your
selfor to go back to school to get a high school diploma to get a college degree that it doesn't matter feeling dumb and saying what am I doing here setting up in some boring class
commitmentcould mean a lot of things it could mean that you begin to go back you got to back up sometimes means to back up and not give up to regroup...
back up and regroup and come back again because life is waylaid you because you got knocked down I know when when I was working on my dream there were times I lost my house at one point I lost my car I was broke my credit was bad I was sleeping at different friends houses on their couch or on the floor there were times months that I slept on the floor of my office and got up early and dressed before my staff got there to give them the impression that I got there early before they did and we all pretend not to know what we knew that the boss was staying in the office so we never talked about it but I refuse I refuse to give up on my dream and what happened they say you know in the prosperous years you put it in your pocket in the lean years you put it in your heart it makes me appreciate it even more even more I wouldn't trade it I wouldn't trade it for anything the disappointment the pain that I've gone through by keeping the
commitments that you have might mean taking a stand that's that's unpopular something was said one time when you take a position says cowardice ask the question is it safe politics asks the question is it popular but conscience or
commitmentasks the question is it right and see most people rather operate from the first - is it safe for me to take this position I remember I was a state legislator I saw guys and then women who believed in legislation very strongly but because the Speaker of the House said we...
won't go with that they back down and they felt bad about it they wouldn't take the position because they didn't want to speak of a house to be angry at them they wanted to be alright with all of the rest of our colleagues see it takes a great deal of strong courage and
commitmenton your part to step out a line who you know Henry David Thoreau said the man doesn't keep pace with his companions perhaps he's listening to the beat of a different drummer let him dance to the music that he hears however measured of far apart when you are committed you dancing to the beat of a different drummer don't expect people to understand you don't expect it to make sense to anybody why you've got to do this why you have got to go why you leave this is a good job I'm going they pay you well I'm going you just a few years from retirement I'm going why I don't understand you don't have to I'm going for me because I've made a different kind of
commitmentwith my life this is something I have got to do
commitmentit means taking a stand taking a stand for you it means delivering it means coming through what if you don't keep your
commitmentless what if you give it everything you have and you come up short or if you don't give it everything you have what if you get weak along the way and you throw in the towel on your
selfyou surrender to your emotions what what then a lot of people become discouraged they become frustrated and...
they say Oh what the heck and they go back to doing what they were doing before saying it doesn't work here's what I suggest number one that does happen so take total responsibility for it just own it don't make any excuses and why you gave in or why you didn't come through just own it and face the flak whatever it is stand up inside your
selfnext thing is assess the situation how did you get here what happened that you broke down that you had a breakdown and you surrendered what happened what was going on see when I used to go on a diet and I no longer do that I've made a
commitmentto a healthy lifestyle I used to eat up until 12:00 midnight on Sunday anything that wasn't moving and on Monday I would I would get up and eat a fruit get a light fruit breakfast and for lunch time I would fix some broiled chicken and meticulously peel the skin off and eat the chicken and then eat the skin do five setups look in the mirror and become discouraged because my stomach doesn't look like a washboard or what are they having Hayley dances and I say what the use and then I go to refrigerator and eat food cold standing right then a refrigerator so when I evaluate it where I broke down I realized I can't have junk food in the house I had to remove that then I realized there's certain streets I couldn't drive down so I changed my route I stopped taking people to lunch or to dinner because I couldn't sit there and watch them eat when I had to go...
someplace in speaking they were eating I said call me downstairs when it's time for me to speak because if I said at the table looking at them the foods going to call my name and I know this so I had to begin to make sure that I wasn't putting my
selfin a position where I would give up on my
commitmentam I making sense to you so I began to strategize around avoiding situations where I knew that I was going to become weak another thing I do when I don't keep my
commitmentI either deny my
selfsomething or I do a trade-off if a glazed doughnut takes advantage of me then I require my
selfto do an extra 25 setups or I walk for an extra 15 to 20 minutes because they got a hammerlock on my head and say come on over here so you might have to deny your
selfsomething or do a trade-off do something that will offset it the other thing is start again so what you fell flat on your face so what start again learn from the experience and start again don't count your
selfout don't send them just up to a lifetime of being miserable a lifetime of being broke a lifetime of being unhealthy a lifetime of being in a relationship that is no longer fulfilling to you a lifetime of living and working on a job that that does not bring you satisfaction that's not giving you the creative urge that you need and that got to have in your life that stimulates you don't send us your stuff like that you are human being don't volunteer your life that way your life has to value to...
the universe you've got something to contribute you've got something to give and so what if you make a
commitmentand you're not able to do it like a probe that you're not good as everybody else live in the moment I like what this says look to this day for it is life the very life of life in its brief course lie all the realities and verities of existence the Bliss of growth the splendor of action the glory of power for yesterday is but a dream and tomorrow is only a vision but today today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of home look well therefore to this day see if we just start enjoying where we are if we make that kind of
commitmentto ensure where we are to experience the experience of life where we are to do all we can right now where we are forget about the mistakes yesterday we forget about all your failures yesterday forget forget about what you don't have that's not important only thing that we have is right now right now right now and I say that life is calling on you to call forth on that the optimists which I think one of the most positive groups in the world they have something called the optimist Creed and I like they says promise your
selfI changed it to commit your
selfbecause I think that
commitmenthas more power than promise it says commit your
selfto be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind to talk health happiness and prosperity to every person you meet to make all...
your friends feel that there is something in them to look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true to think only of the best to work only for the best and expect only the best to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future to where cheerful continents at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile to give so much time to the improvement of your
selfthat you have no time to criticize others to be too large for worry too noble for anger too strong for fear and too happy to permit the presence of trouble commit your
selfto these things isn't powerful what a
commitmentto make with your life commit your
selfto stretch to get outside of your comfort zone and not be concerned about what people think about you because they're thinking it anyhow don't worry about what they will say they already saying it so what do you care decide that that your life has so much meaning to the planet decide that you have something to give that's why you're here so you two just show up you brought something here you're a journey you have a destination mission to achieve to do to implement to perform to experience decide to commit your
selfto be an adventurer in life look out on life around you look within your
selfand say where is it in my life that I need to make a
commitmentright now where is it that it might be for...
your health it might be to be a happier person it might be to make a difference in your community it might be that where is it I say that
commitmentshows up and the man or woman who has some idea some some dream that they've been nurturing within themselves and no one believed it no one saw it for them that they weren't masters at it they weren't experts at it no one would build a statue and never call their name and recognized and they never made it to the front page of the newspaper but they had something that was there something that that was their baby something that they loved and they believed in and they just did what they could with what God gave them with their dream
commitmentshows up and people that are willing to give themselves a chance who look at the lives look within themselves and say I know I know that that this just cannot be it for my life I know that there's that something I'm supposed to do I don't know right now maybe you do know maybe you do know and you've talked your
selfout of it and I understand that because I I'm late oh no no no everything happens as it should I I got the courage to step out - to become committed I was I was seriously not serious before and I decided it took me some time to build up the courage to become committed because it frightened me so I understand wrestling with I wish I can tell you I've been doing this for 20 years I haven't I haven't I haven't I'm just glad that that...
I decided to become committed before I left here and wherever you are decide that you're going to commit your life now and let it show up in your contribution let it show up in what you have to share and whatever