Cross cultural communication | Pellegrino Riccardi | TEDxBergen

You're... you're going to get a ticket." "Why?" "Just... please move the car." (Laughter) You could tell she was very uncomfortable. This bothered me and I thought, you know, I don't have time. for this. It doesn't matter. So I went. Okay, and this is especially for the Norwegians in the room, did I get a ticket? (Audience) Yes. Do you feel sorry for me? No. You're welcome. (Laughter) There is no no mercy at all. It's a simple rule. Stick to the rules. Italians believe that the power of speech, the power of persuasion is the most important tool in your life.

We believe that it can attract people and if it's good enough on this, they might listen to you and come up with an alternative.So I thought I'd call the traffic police in Oslo and get me out... I can already see Norwegians acting like this: "Oh no! You are losing your time. Forget it". No! I wanted to try I called the traffic police: "Hello, I'm Pellegrino ..." -- I spoke English, of course, not Norwegian, because people take you more seriously then -- "Hello, I'm Pellegrino... I'm calling about case 78206." "Yes, I have it in front of me." "I was wondering if we could be a little flexible with this, we're only talking about 20 centimeters;

I'm so sorry: I've learned from that and I'll never do it again." Did it help? You're welcome. The thing that spoke for him was that it was good. Really very good. I could hear it click, it had all the rules, he said, "I'm sorry a lot, but the wheel has to be in the box." (Laughter) "It says here: Rule 5, paragraph D." He had all the answers before him. Then he said something I'll never forget: "Your name is Riccardi, maybe you're Italian . You must like soccer." I said, "I like soccer." "It's like soccer, you know? The ball has to pass the line.

The wheel has to..." (Laughter) Great. It was amazing. I had all the answers, black and white, I had them all. Well, I told this to my friend, Yves, that Frenchman, who got so upset. - - Do you remember? "Is that so?" -- He is very good at asking questions and he said, "so the wheel has to be in the box. What happens if I remove the wheel? What happens then?" (Laughter) I called back and asked, "What would happen if I removed the steering wheel?" He couldn't answer me. He couldn't answer this question. Why not? It's not an accepted and ordinary question.

He she doesn't understand that approach. You have to be Italian for that. Because when I parked in Italy... I looked for parking when I was on vacation, impossible. I see a parking attendant and I approach her. I speak Italian to her and I say: "I'm looking for a place to park.” She says, “There's a garage nearby, but you shouldn't park there.” “Why not?” She says, “Too expensive. 40 euros!" (Laughter) "But what should I do?" She says: "You seem like a nice person. I like your Italian, I'll help you. Park your car there.” And she points to that sign and says, “Park there.” (Laughter) “But you can't…” “Okay, it's not dangerous.

Park there. You shouldn't pay 40 euros for the garage. Park your car there. I'll fine you 30 euros and you save $10 (Laughter) I won't say if this is right or wrong, but I can say I get it I get it because I have it in me I've seen it before accept it and I can see the positives. of those three cultures that I have in me I want to finish with what I am passionate about: I have three cultures in me, they are very different and they are kilometers apart, really kilometers apart in some aspects but you know what I try every day, especially with my children?

I try to take the best of all three and merge them into a new culture where you have the best of all three. For me,

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ing the boundaries, it's about pushing the boundaries and creating new boundaries, if you can create a new culture where you can do too much of all three, as I try to do, it's not easy, what do you get? So you create a global way of thinking. I think the world revolves around this. Thank you. (Applause)