Como conocí a mi esposa Canadiense. ¿me dio papeles?

Hello. Spanish speaking brothers. Today we are going to talk to you about how we met. It was by pure chance and unintentionally. Join us. I had just turned 20, I wasn't looking for an 18 year old, I've always liked older people, I once wanted 35 or so, I didn't want a little girl but. I was just building my construction company, starting to gain clients and experience and the truth is I wasn't looking for a relationship but things happened. As you already know, I lived with an adoptive family in Vancouver, I have my biological parents in Chiapas, since I came to Canada as a minor the Government put me in the custody of a family and I had already moved out of their house because I I was already 20 years old.

So, I always kept in touch with my adoptive family in Vancouver, I went to their house for dinner on the weekends and everything, and I also talked to my biological parents in Chiapas, and they always, they both told me "you went on Sunday to the church", so one day I decided to go alone to please my mother in Chiapas and my adoptive parents. My dad always told me "if you're going to look for a woman, look in a gym, a library or a church, don't look in a canteen or a nightclub." And I remember that I entered the chapel, to the room where you listen and the people are sitting, and I saw her from behind, I only saw her hair, I enter, I turn, and there were many empty benches and this is all I see, practically, on an empty bench, so I went to sit next to her.

And I spoke to him with a lot of confidence, with a lot of self-assurance because I had already lived here for many years, where people, per se, never noticed my appearance, no one cares that I am ugly. When I grew up in Chiapas, if there was a child in the class who was blonde or blue-eyed, whatever their gender, they were automatically one of the most popular and attractive, just because of those physical features. But after so many years in Vancouver and having such close and meaningful friendships with people from all over the world, from all religions and from all races, I was able to transcend that mentality, and I was able to overcome that and focus on the true value of being human, which gave me a lot of confidence when talking to the girls, apart from the fact that Canadian girls like ugly, horrible ones, me here as an example.

Before the speaker started speaking, I started talking to her. As I had already told you, I was not looking for a relationship, I was already fed up with dates and relationships because when I entered high school, I hung out with many girls, many of them invited me out, not only from my school but from all the surrounding schools. , I had many friends on the sports teams and I went to support them at their games at the other schools, and I always met girls and ended up dating one of them and I was already fed up, I wanted to take advantage of my time for the productive and I was focused on my company, but something about her caught my attention, nothing to do with her physique, the girls I had dated like to party, dance, party;

They didn't have a plan in life, they just focused on here and the moment, and I just want to have fun, and have a good time, and drink and live together, and they weren't going in the same direction that I was looking for. It was the competition, that is, as soon as he saw that she was going to sit here on my lap to go to another field where we were going to go, and although the road has no potholes we were not going to go like that, even so he did not want us to He sat on my lap, and then he stood in his car and spoke to him "Hey, I'll take you here, I'll take you here, don't hang out with that mob." I was left with the desire, in the end it was a basket of sandwiches that he brought here in the legs.

But that young man was not the only one who prevented me from getting closer to her, also her sister, who had nothing personal against me, simply because she was very young she did not want the men to be after her; The reason she went to Vancouver was only to distract herself for a semester before starting her university here in Edmonton, not to look for a husband, much less a Chiapas native. One time, since there was no cell phone or social media, I called him on the landline at his house, yes! The phone that is attached to the wall and you have to pick it up and say "well, who are you looking for, with "Who wants to talk?", those, and I told his sister, "Look, I have an event, to which I want to invite your little sister, so that she can come see me," and she says to me, "What kind of event, young man?" Tell me, "it's a little MMA fight, mixed martial arts, in a city called Surrey" and there in a basement there were fights, and you went, and people bet and you earned extra money;

It was $500 if you won, and $200 if you lost, or you could choose $300 whether you won or lost, or $1,000 if you won and $0 if you lost; It was your choice, but you never knew who you would have to fight, that is, you have to be prepared; and this time alive I was sure she was going to win, I said "I'm going to show off that I'm a real macho," and I called her to invite her but her sister never gave her the message. It was not professional at all, it is simply a basement, if you hit someone and they dodge it, you hit someone who is drinking, when you want to catch air you only catch the smoke of those who are there smoking, if you dodge a little and you throw a kick you hit a stove or a dish.

One time, I went to her house to visit her where she lived with her sister and we were talking there, and her sister was in her room the whole time. And she couldn't even see us, only hear, I don't know how her sixth sense told her "this one is going to launch", and I was scared when I heard it because she was here on the intercom; this was in an apartment in the Metrotown area of ​​the city of Burnaby. We could only communicate by email and I was spending time in Cancun, Mexico, when Facebook came out.

We only wrote to each other from time to time, at Christmas or on our birthdays. But that's as far as it went, nothing happened, we were just friends on Facebook. I had already been a little disappointed, I had time not to talk to him because I couldn't find an excuse to talk to him, to say "hey, I woke up thinking about you" or something like that; and it was still a long time before her birthday or Christmas, which was when she normally spoke to him. I was visiting my biological parents in Chiapas, and then they knocked on my door and told me "hey, look, there's a guy who just arrived from Canada and doesn't speak any Spanish"; also as a missionary from the same church as hers, and they tell me "give him a hand no" and they pass him by and I say "what part of Canada are you from", and he tells me "I'm from Edmonton-Alberta", --"what By chance, I only know one person from that city", and he says to me "seriously, what is her name?", and I said "Katrina..." --"I know her, she worked at my dad's company ".

Keep in mind this is a metropolitan area with over 1 million people, what are the odds, so I said "this is my chance", I wrote to him and said "hey, you know this guy, look he's here in my house in Chiapas-Mexico"; and that was like an excuse to reconnect with her, to get him to talk about her. Then we returned to Canada almost at the same time, but I returned to Vancouver and she returned to Edmonton. So we talked for a little while and she told me "we're going to go visit my sister, we're going to go to Vancouver" and that was our first date, we met here, outside Science World, in Vancouver.

It was almost the same as when I met her, her life back again with the same hair as when I first saw her, and we started walking and I held her handbag and she made this post; "Saul loses manhood points for every second he holds my bag." And then we sat down exactly on this bench and it was our first kiss. After that first date she visited me at the apartment I was living in in the city of Port Moody, and I made her some quesadillas with red sauce, and the next day we went for a walk to a park called Rocky Point and we walked all around it. to this park here called Old Orchard.

We started the long distance relationship, her in Edmonton and me in Vancouver. My closest friends are women, including my best friend, and it was important to me that she, my girlfriend, get along with my best friend, so I introduced them and they got along great and everything worked out great. I proposed that she come live with me but she sent me straight, you know where, she told me that she would never spend the night with a man until he turned her into a married woman and he became her legitimate husband. her. So she chose a ring with the help of one of her best friends who knows her tastes, I invited her on a trip to the national parks of Alberta and waited for the right moment to propose, but I never found it, I waited until we returned and it was there now or never.

And that's where we got engaged, I gave him the ring, so it was practically our third date or the third time we visited each other and I returned to Vancouver already engaged. Once we were engaged we stayed like that for 3 months, she here in Edmonton and I in Vancouver. So she comes, brings all her things to the apartment that I already looked for for us, maybe in the city of Port Moody, there I met her dad, who helped her bring all her things, and a month later I return here to Edmonton to get married, so we got married on our fifth date.

In summary, we met in 2006, we were online friends for 6 years, we had a first date in 2012, after 3 months we got engaged and in another 3 months we got married, 6 months from our first date to our wedding. The gothic sister. Since my parents could not attend the wedding, at that time there was no ETA, so it was much more difficult to visit, they could not come but they sent a video message which they played at the wedding ceremony. They told me "hey, they are your family" - "I don't know them, they are my wife's friends, I don't know anyone here." Because the school I went to, I was the only Hispanic, she was more in contact with the Hispanic community than I was.

And it was the first time I really experienced the concept of first world problems because we just bought a new dealership car and we had so many gifts it couldn't fit, my new car isn't big enough for all my gifts. The guayabera that I wore for my wedding, my mother sent it to me from Chiapas, in fact she sent it to me. I used it recently for my brother's wedding in the US because while we were away the freezer in our refrigerator broke down and everything we had there, meat, milk, went bad, including a turkey that had to be there for me. had been given away and had been rotting for weeks, our first bad day, we started to clean all the rot dripping with blood, there was a puddle of black blood that had dripped from the refrigerator and so we had to clean it.

Having experienced multiculturalism in Canada, it taught me to see the beauty in human beings beyond physical appearance. All that affection that I felt for people of all religions, colors and races taught me to see the true value of the human being and taught me that we are all unique and irreplaceable; I also believe that any relationship between two people can work as long as both are willing to sacrifice everything for the well-being of the other; It is not 50 and 50, it is 100 and 100; and so we can grow as a couple and raise a family that will be the same, feel love and respect for every human being regardless of their appearance, and I invite you to do the same.

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