Answering Your Tough Life QuestionsJun 06, 2021
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questions, don't do that while I'm driving, I can't see we asked you to instagram us your questions so we're here at starbucks we're going to have a coffee sit down not inside not inside no it's self service yes yes yes and we are we are socially different we are yeah we're not touching anyone or licking anyone so we're going to be fine it's in a moment because it's good to order now for venti a venti i'm worried if you say large here they give you a medium one ounce bite yes yes yes so that two venti oat milk ice vanilla latte ok oh my god oh my god you're nervous i haven't done this for so long today oatmeal oatmeal ice cream latte please vanilla vanilla ice cream no vanilla fresh vanilla ice cream can i get that with vanilla no sugar please it did great i'm scared there's a sign it's like hey man when you're on vacation yeah do something fun do something fun anyway while you do something like we're not moving well here we are we got , oh, oh, mail, leads through guest's name, no, what a dried fruit, I guess not, it's absolutely disgusting, ordered James. that and I panicked being in the panic window panic window order window and I was like myself I have health free and it tastes like vegetables like roasted vegetables before going into this we are nobody to give life advice real but just like your friends and we know we're having coffee we're here for you we're heavy so robert here's a question we're going to keep all these anonymous in case you know so robert a nomination i thought i was looking into the field i love but not anymore and im so confused with life yeah listen i studied graphic design then photography became a stylist then some kind of weird online influencer and now i do youtube i think the idea of ââyou studying what you are doing do for the rest of your life is a bit unreal this is what you studied to do something for years and years and years it can only make studying easier for you yeah like you have experience you know s what to expect I'm not saying it's easy, but you know what to expect.
I had a friend who was a lawyer full time, like you were a girl. You're really cool, yeah, and she became a makeup artist. i'm not ashamed to be like you know what now i've been doing this for a while it's not for me i'm not enjoying it this is your life this is going to be your life you shouldn't leave something like oh i think i made a mistake getting in the way of that and i feel that everyone assumes your life has to have a set plan go to school like be a kid be a baby a baby school career family house whatever you want to do that if you want a family if you want a house rent and then die and then it can be kind of scary to break that part of you you know oh I'm on the right track yeah and taking it has been a bit of a risk but I mean what's the outcome of that risk and what's normal today in day you know what is a normal way to do it let me let me tell you something too before i first moved to florida we lived in london i had clients i had a really good job a really good job i was doing makeup i had a um uh what's the name of new people people in the industry and i was like y'all know what i'm really not happy doing what i'm doing i need a break and yeah it's a big big step and it's a big harrowing change.
I had indigestion the whole time. time leading up to that, but like nervousness, indigestion and um, and that was kind of triggered by anxiety and I wasn't that anxious because I didn't really suffer with anything, it's scary, but in the end, at the end of the day, yeah, it's a risk what you have to take to be happy yeah what i mean i mean yeah no shame starting over if you want a different track in your life exactly exactly like that how to cut toxic toxic friends well what a perfect time during look down yeah yeah ignore them tell them you're busy with you you're the person they don't eat here's the thing if they do something toxic if they do something toxic i think we're like we're all in this place now where this is dairy free yeah yeah oatmeal we are in this place at the moment when most of our contact is online he is on whatsapp he is on instagram he is what in any messenger face the time face the time treat him like a dog he does something you don't like you ignore him b Well he usually scolds a dog but if he does something to try and get your attention and usually toxic people do toxic things to get you into their l a little toxic cycle yeah ignore it they send you a message like listen ignore it straight up ignore it and then they get to this point where it's ok this isn't working they are not that kind of toxic person people see you as a weak person turn that around don't be toxic to them but turn it around just know how listen i am not taking away do they benefit you in any way what is their benefit to your life unless they pay you what is their benefit to your life i am very good at just ignoring people and i like not just i dont want anymore for us to meet no i don't want to not really thank you so what are some easy ways to pretend to be friendly when you really hate everyone this?
I mean if you're going to do a fake smile make sure you squint too yeah cuz look I look like I'm going to kill you yeah and then if you squint like oh they're happy I think everyone hates it. people so you just have to know that everyone hates people and it actually makes you quite like people you know what I worked for, what I worked for, what I learned working a lot with people and working in places where you have to be happy all the time, yes you really have to force it, yes, and I don't like people at all. in fact there are people in cars all around us and it annoys me even though they are just living their lives.
I hate being a lot of people but just to force it to force ours is hard yeah but you know what to kill with kindness here's the thing is if you're nice and polite and nice then everyone talks back to you and you end up hating more to people but you know you can still hate people it's absolutely fine especially nowadays when the human race as a whole was like this. its going on with everyone you know this is so horrible how do you drink this and order this specially? i order this every day twice a day talking about jobs and stuff anonymous ass i'm 22 and i work two jobs i really want to be independent but i still trust my parents for money like we mentioned before you know you go to college, then you get a job and become an adult and by the time I'm 25 I'm going to have a house and a family oh you know whatever you got this whole idea when I was 25 I was still asking mom and dad to help me They'll listen as a couple when I think, first of all, if you're a parent, I mean, I'm going to look forward to having to take care of my child for as long as I can. but I feel like if you're working really, really hard to try to be independent, yeah, which is enough independence, you know, yeah, I feel like having two jobs is against something.
Have you worked two jobs? Yeah it's like we've both done it too and it's that it's that need and that drive to be like oh you know I want my own I want my money I want my own house even if it's just renting a room or something to have that thought process and have that um energy to work two jobs is enough independence for a minute give yourself a chance but then also th The fact that you have two jobs shows that you are going to have the drive that will make you as independent as you want to be in the future. we were 22 we were in london i was at university university i was in london i was doing my makeup yeah and living on a student on minimal student loan asking mom and dad for money because i spent too much money on hmv yeah yeah so technically you're still a kid yeah , I would look at it that way, you know you're still in that really horrible time in your life where everyone's trying to make you decide everything so fast right now, it's like you have like four years to decide what you're going to do for the rest of your life. your life and then it's like i feel like my whole life no no my whole life didn't come together that sounds like my life was a mess but i didn't yes but i didn't realize everything was going to be great until the 30. yeah oh my gosh 30s are the best years I feel happier and more comfortable and finally settled down and dirty which again like I said is sort of like waiting for 25 and thinking about many. life choices we make and decisions we make how many times we've moved how many jobs we've had how many all these other things until you're 30 and you're working hard to make it don't be too hard on yourself i think i need independence now even though it can be frustrating you're real close yeah i can feel it man sounds like vegetable broth im gonna talk about this cause no one can talk about this like that but we talked about this on a recent podcast where we talked about all the dangerous diets we used to do um anonymous ah i wanna lose weight how do i do it efficiently and in a healthy way the only way to lose weight coming from people who are not a nutritionist at all we are not a gym at all um is to eat healthy and exercise i know its so boring but we've done all kinds of diet we've done every like counting our whatever if you haven't listened to our podcast episode a podca double cleanse st where we talk about diets we go over all the diets we have been on how much weight loss yes how much weight we lost how fast then we put it back on there is something about dieting that is really great to see really fast results but I'm the type of person that if I'm two weeks on a diet and I'm still not skinny I'm like good well that didn't work that doesn't work yes or when you lose weight you're like good now I deserve to eat all this because I spent two weeks eating good cabbage and the only time i have lost weight properly and not regained it is when i went on a diet but it wasn't a diet i was eating healthy i was eating um more food actually yes and more regularly regularly and exercising thirsty five days a week and for like half an hour yeah and i was all good i lost weight horribly but last thing make sure you diet because you want to diet too not just because you feel like you need to If you're losing weight the reason I'm currently on a diet right now and we're doing this food service no spahn um is because we're at an age now where cholesterol matters our blood pressure like all that kind of thing like if we were an age Now if we don't get healthy now we'll probably be like you're in your 20s eat crap you know do what you have to but just make sure you lose weight because you want to be healthy not because you want to. to look slimmer you want to be slimmer just because you want to be healthy yes it is very hard to be impatient but i think being healthy and losing weight is something you work towards gradually give yourself don't give yourself months or weeks give yourself years a year you know that being at your ideal weight is hard work and it's a life it's a lifestyle change come join join our team yeah hey join our team but really is you know now i can eat a pizza and eat if he was gone for two weeks, well, this is what he was saying. i remember i was 26 when i remember eating at mcdonald's for a week and we used to be able to do that and lose weight but i remember i never lost weight and i thought this was it now it's me it's me next question . anonymous ass you think some people are meant to be alone they never find love i'm 44 and losing hope omg we have friends we're talking about but he knows who he is you know our best friend always loved being around in a relationship, yes I've only been in one relationship in my life and I'm with it. person now so I think a lot of people really depend on what you want here's the thing you don't feel like you have to be in a relationship because that's what people expect of you if you're single and happy but you say you're losing hope so i guess you want to find someone but as corny as that sounds i think it just happens when it happens i think the problem with dating apps and stuff is that you really force it to happen we live in this world we live in a society we live in this in a society in a world where its very hard to say no to people and very quick to say no to people because i have never used a dating app but i think its just no yeah no yeah no yeah and we've come to think that's an acceptable decision to be as it's not based on looks and a profile whereas I think that's why so many people say oh it's so hard to find love because they are, I mean, not you , I mean like people,to you working in retail you get this much at most yes the best you can do is manipulate them and use them to your advantage the best way to know being a little snitch don't listen do your job let them do what they have to like let them if they're talking like they're complaining to someone about any case but now whether it's your managers or a colleague and you're not comfortable with it show that you're not interested that's what I do all the time bring my work, oh, writing in the, you know, I disagree, I never agree with anyone, oh, well, did you tell them that? be the bigger person you are and tell them why they think you're on their side and let me tell you something retail is a tough environment there really is horrible retail is one of the most stressful jobs i've ever been in not only are you dealing with the heavy workload that feels like non-stop you're dealing with customers who think you're below them just because you know how to get clothes out and you know how to restock shelves area managers trainers oh wait what job are you working on the biggest people you know that's where the smile comes out i would say any job just be courteous be nice be nice to your colleagues yeah it's hard because especially when you work in a retail store and it's a place where you probably spend most of your its time and then your little retail family becomes a yes so if i think i did it before.
I had this before when I was very young. I had um two of the worst of the worst. I hope you are well. like oh yeah well tell them she hasn't said that about you yeah maybe you should have a little talk maybe you have the wrong side of spirit yeah or listen if you have an area manager and they're not a tell her to your area managers to be like Listen, I know people get upset, but I would appreciate it if someone would say, can you guys not talk about what's in front of us? I would say I'm sorry to interrupt you but I need to go to the bathroom, yes when are you going to do it.
Hide in the warehouse for an hour, yes, and let's go get some water. Drink water. i sleep at a human hour now i flip that and i sleep with youtube on yeah so i used to like to lay in bed and literally be like watching videos all the time and now i make sure i'm subscribed to people who send me to sleep in the best way it's like horror storytellers um that's all horror storytellers I'm going to get in I go to bed at half past ten yeah like early night and then I'm on my phone and then all of a sudden it's one in the morning.
You just can't you never can unfortunately you know ok so here it is lemme lemme tell you about shopping because I'm the same I'm so scared I'll miss something if something launches this is the best right? if you buy a lot, go through all your things, go through everything and think of you, you know that I have clothes with labels, I still have makeup and it is packaged with hygienic strips that can be removed. I'm so interested in that product when it's released in about a week. later I say, oh yeah, you know what? This is not unspawned but I've done so much sponsored work there's a shop tag yeah they're great you can wish list yeah so instead of buying and adding to a basket on a website like i'm gonna go to the style yeah right and add everything to a wish list in instead of the basket and look back and be like what is that again yeah yeah i don't know what It is, I'll delete it and get rid of it, yes, and it will help you stop buying yourself buy it, yes, I think online, especially, there's a lot of excitement and excitement around a product, but how long does that excitement and excitement last?
It's like a week and you get into it and it's like oh now it's over like desperately ever beetlejuice mel cosmetics from the beetlejuice collection i desperately wanted to use both palettes once and i haven't looked at them they're great but yeah, what is the best way to get back at my housemate when he doesn't? do the dishes i had a housemate like that in college and i put his dirty dishes in his cupboard yeah what are you supposed to do of course they shouldn't be on the side so i'll put them in your cupboard if you want? are you ok with them being around you know what to do right take the plates when th are out and they just make them really gross yeah like make some sauce so yeah and they say oh my gosh what who is this and then they keep pretending like they don't know who it is and they'll be a little awkward if they're trying to defend themselves like oh my gosh look at this sticky sauce yeah even if they didn't eat sauce that ate sticky sauce and beans and left it to one side yeah i'll get some dead worms from a fish shop yeah yeah that's a good idea who left these dead nuggets in this sauce oh how do i stop comparing myself to others mentally especially in lockdown? compare yourself to others, no matter how successful you think you are having, there will always be someone above you who will do better, but there will also be someone above them, they will compare themselves to you, there is no one in the world who is like that It's me and perfect I don't look at anyone or anyone and On the other hand, a time line that is the circle of life for you.
The healthy things I did was unfollow a lot of people on Instagram when I was in my 20s. then just look at what you're doing and what you've done in your achievements and what you like about yourself and again you know what it is that obsesses you with these other people and you can bring that into your life in your own way, like it's because of their body, can you exercise more?, you know, if not unfollow them, if it's something physical, do they really look like that?, do they really look like that? The thing too and people say it all the time but it's true that online is like a terrible representation of people's real real life again.
We're at the age where we just don't compare ourselves to other people because we just don't care. yeah but especially when we're early twe nties probably teens do ok we'll have one more cause i feel like this is enough really yeah this is disgusting sorry where's the bin? it's not pale yeah and when you're jealous of someone just remember everyone wipes their ass after they've eaten a bucket yeah my mother in law is unbearably nosy about what to do act like you murdered someone and if she goes To do it. She's gonna be in your business, yeah I know like you're a part of this, you know what I've done? you ask me that, yes, who told you what you are, what did someone say, do you know why you ask that in particular?
It's really weird or if they're asking you too many questions, they're just like making up, being like me. remember when i told you last week about this yeah they'll say yeah yeah h oh yeah and then they might stop asking you stuff because then they won't know how to remember and they'll all start remembering yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah let's get this over with because I think it's like a life lesson everyone should know how do you pretend to be a assembled adult when you're a mess? They all pretend they're adults and they all pretend they know what they're doing.
There's one thing I learned while working with fashion people and within the fashion industry and you. I know these very important people like Conde Nast and nobody knows what they are doing. Everyone is faking. I always say don't fake it until you do. It's putting on a blazer and smiling for an hour for an hour every day, but here's the thing, everyone is at it again, we live in a world where everything is perceived as perfection and everything you put online has to look perfect, There have been p Pictures where I've edited the background, for example, because it's not clear enough that everything has to be perfect online and that's not reality, but it has become a form of reality for us.
It has to be pretending you're an adult. well here's the thing tell me when i'm filming and taking those pictures half the time i bet i'm sitting there smelling like bo and i have i mean i'm wearing pajamas you know why because i couldn't be bothered to shower. that morning, yeah, because you're an adult, whatever you want, that's being an adult, it's not being well organized and having a life in order, it's just doing whatever, you're faking it until you see a picture. God, you know, great skin, great makeup, lovely, you wouldn't think I smell like onions.
You're like oh my gosh and you put on a hoodie yeah yeah ah yeah yeah yeah yeah no nobody nobody's perfect at all nobody nobody knows what they're doing make me a perfect person who don't be michelle obama, oh, um, michelle obama's publicist, michelle obama's stylist, it doesn't work well, here we go. that's how you're an adult, you sit in your pajamas and smell like onion, smell like onion until you make it. i have learned something yeah me too take everything we said very literally oh my gosh you will have to take this while i am driving because i cant get it right thanks for joining us you can follow me for skincare my seat belt because I am a good example, okay, it is essential that you wear your seat belt. i know its not on robert w-o-s-h on instag ram yeah and just search for robert welsh and his tour yeah also on welsh twins on instagram to hear our tune but thats all from us now ok we will do this on my car, meet you in your car, where are you? you're going to ride my bike this red book has been in my car four months
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