10 COMMON MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE WITH MEN - PERISCOPE SESSION - RC BLAKESMay 01, 2020
for this room - this room needs to be full tonight to be honest with you because I think some of the things we're going to talk about tonight will shed some light on some of the issues that many of the daughters face. have this is my book some of you probably haven't heard of this this is my book, the conversation between father and daughter and in this book I cover everything or the conversation that every father should have had with his daughter, every woman should have had with her. father, this is the workbook, study guide, whatever you want to call it, this is the companion to the book and a lot of what we're going to discuss tonight really comes from the book, but tonight I just want to like have a conversation with you I just want to have some kind of conversation with you
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makein relationships with men and I'll jump right in because I have ten of them that I want to share with you tonight. Can you hold that again? very quickly at what point in the book oh, that's the book dr. Harper I love you too, darling, I love your work, I love your work and this is the study guide that goes with it, the static guy that goes with it, okay, let's jump to the common mistakes that women often make in relationships with men and the sad thing is that this is not what I am going to explain to you tonight, it is only the beginning, it is only the tip of the iceberg, but it is what I deal with the most, it is a spiritual father again.
I am not a therapist or psychologist, I am a pastor and a father, naturally and spiritually, I have three biological daughters and I don't know how many spiritual daughters I have. I have a multitude of spiritual daughters who come to me in abundance daily and these are the things I see all the time. That is my son. They okay you see pop that is Pastor Howard Harding great man of God to follow women who need empowerment and need to hear from a man who has a Father's heart and a man is trustworthy, he is the man to follow, he has a mandate for this hour, but let's get into the matter.
These are the things I hear all the time. These are the mistakes women make and they make them over and over again. The sad thing is that sometimes women get older and make the same mistakes and when I say older I don't necessarily mean old, frankly, when you are 30 years old as a woman you should have certain things under control. In terms of your understanding of how the world works and how men operate, you should have learned from a father's instructions or at that time you should have learned through personal experience, your entire twenties should have taught you certain things about men. men, but you find yourself at 30 35 40 45 repeating the same mistakes the same mistakes you made when you were twenty because you never really learned you never really learn and that's problematic for me because you're smart and you know what I'm saying how come a Ph.D. ? of a woman is constantly manipulated by a GED of a man because you never really learn number one how to flirt or think you can hook a man with sex oh let me rephrase that thinking you can hook a husband with sex you can always seem like a man with sex but you're not going to hook a husband with sex lying in bed with a man giving a manual body rolling on a mattress, you know, just giving a man your body like that over and over again from one man to another when You're going to learn how many men, how many men you have to sleep with before you realize that sex will not make a man marry you in most cases, it will make him avoid marriage with you Proverbs 18:22 says that whoever finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains the favor of the Lord his one of the daughters and the ministry say today in a certain video that she is single she has been single for 10 years and says I am a wife look you have to be a wife before becoming a wife man who finds to the wife, which means that you are already wife material, a man does not look for a wife in bed, he looks for a wife at the altar when you lie in bed with a man you are not married to, you decrease your decrease, you diminish his ability to be able to defect to discern your true value and you significantly affect the possibility of him ever seeing you as a wife and marrying you, you just have in all this sex, I just don't know what it is. wrong with you you know you see you can't advertise you see when you make an offer with a man you're not married to you lower his perception of your value and you can't advertise a hamburger and then you think you're going to charge For the steak, you can't roll in the offer, be the damn man.
But he will make you his wife. I paused because I wanted to take it in. I want you to really realize, I actually just said that you can't be a man's monster and think that's who he is. Feeling like his wife with all the women that men will play with does not mean that they will bring them home and what happens is that when you think you are going to hook a man with sex you simply become a toy, no different than his car. or his motorcycle or anything else, but any other toy that men play with and you see that you have control over it when you decrease when you use it when you water yourself to the point that you crawl in a bed with man after man after man after man and just having all this strange sex with someone you're not married to, number two, settling for someone, this is the second mistake you make, woman, settling for a man who is obviously deficient in terms of his character, but you you conform. believing that you can change it you're going to talk while I'm this age and I'm that age and then you settle because you think you're going to change it, you can't change, no, no, no grown man is not ia either and You deceive yourself and think you're going to to take a homeless man and somehow you are going to do for the homeless man what his mother could not do his mother could not change what makes you so special look what the Bible says how do you think you are going to change the character of a man who has none, how are you going to change the character of a man who has none? someone who was not one of my spiritual daughters came to me today and said you know finito, she doesn't, she doesn't settle for an abusive man and I had the opportunity to communicate with her, but I applaud it, but why can't you , you can't change the character of a man who obviously has none and some of you are traveling with guys who are obviously deficient in terms of character. and you are convincing yourself to live your life with this man and he obviously has no character, he has no God, he has no character and you think you can change him, the Bible says in Proverbs 12:15 the way a fool is right before his own eyes you can't change a fool's mind you can't if he is if he is so stupid that he doesn't recognize the value in you and the gift that you are why would you hang up? in just waste year after year month after month week after week day after day hour after hour minute after minute someone's dues aren't worth a minute and you think you can change it the Bible says in proverbs 21 one and two, everyone invites a few more people in this room because I need to get this out this just this has to go people need women need to hit are proverbs 21 1 and 2 says the king's heart is in the hand of the lord like the rivers of water that he makes flow with us Whoever, God is the only one who controls a man's heart and if God chooses not to manipulate his heart, what makes you think you can?
Third mistake number 3 that women often make in their relationships with men by not taking the time to learn and heal. from the previous breakup, not taking time to heal and learn from the previous breakup, some of you move on to the next man before you get rid of this one, from one man to another, from one man to another, you are always in a relationship you always bring someone new at church looking at me smiling at me you're not ready to have any relationship I almost said something here I wouldn't be
periscopefriendly you're not ready to have an excessive relationship with this man I just broke your heart, I drug your self esteem down the gutter and you're done. to the next man, why are you so desperate for a man who told you that life evolves around you having a man?
This is crazy to me, it's absolutely crazy to me, guys can live one day their whole life and be totally happy making money loving God in their career and all of you sitting here feel like you got your education, you're beautiful, you have their youth and they just feel like the world. It comes down to it because you don't have a man, I don't get it, I just don't get it and you don't take the time to learn, you know it, even you know it, when you get out of a relationship and the relationship ends. Especially if it ends badly, you need a season to heal and finish to learn from the mistakes that you made from what you went through and just from one man to another you got out of this and in you you have another one on the hook. you haven't learned anything anymore and what happens is that you keep making the same stupid mistakes over and over again and yes, the third mistake that I see women make is that they don't take the time to learn and heal from the previous breakup because you keep talking about this clock I'm still trying to find the clock my clock is ticking my clock where is the clock at man where is the clock at where is the clock at?
The world is coming to an end If you don't have a man If you don't, when's the clock? where is the clock? look at what the Bible says in Proverbs 17 10 point number three not taking the time to learn and heal from the previous breakup proverbs 17 10 says that a wise man has more rebuke than a hundred in the sense of tofu, you can defeat a fool , you can spank a fool with a hundred lashes and he will not learn as quickly as a wise person will learn with just one word of correction, how many times do you have to go through this before you stop?
You hit the brakes and realize you're not ready to make relational decisions right now. You haven't learned from anything you've been through. That's why you keep repeating it. You see in school every time you fail a test. You have to repeat it every time. fail a grade, you have to pass it again and, for many of you who don't take the time to study, there are many of you who failed the first time because you didn't study, you get depressed the second time because you didn't study, you failed the third time because you did not study when you stop and take the time to study your life your characteristics your manners and your tendencies and review the type of menu you choose and why you choose them then realize that you are superficial and, as a consequence, you do not attract to you what what you want, you attract what you are, you are superficial, that's why you attract superficial men who can't make a decision, can't make a decision.
They can't commit, but you see that you are not taking the time to learn about performance, so as a consequence, you are not growing and as long as you stay at the same level, you will not continue to reap the same number while tolerating emotional abuse. that simultaneously here Oatmeal your self-esteem look you don't know I'm a father of three daughters biological daughters um and I don't I don't want my daughters to live without a relationship no man, that's emotional abuse when he put his hand on me he put an e putting his hand on your soul he is uh he is uh he is breaking your soul he is breaking yourself and when you just tolerate making excuses for a man who is emotionally abusive it is draining your soul you should never tolerate let me tell you something when dating a man if a man speaks disrespectfully to you once intentionally if he speaks disrespectfully to you and you call him and then he does it again at that moment You should make a decision: this guy would never call me on the phone again.
You should never tolerate a man who abuses you in any way, verbally, mentally, definitely, not physically, emotionally, never, because if you tolerate a man who emotionally abuses you, he very well may be. the same man who can physically abuse you and you will be sitting there taking the beatings making excuses like you did for his emotional abuse you are bigger than that you are better than that you deserve more than that big mistake that women make. You're going to run him over, he needs to be shooed away by skating leave me, he needs to leave you number five talking too much too soon.
I'm glad to see Pastor Deone here tonight. He will be with us on February 12th, I think for girls night. in words learn to love yourself in the city of New Orleans yeah number five talk too much too soon in the book I teach you know you're not supposed to talk everything you mess it up let him talk and it's a big mistake that women What you do is you're going to share all your personal information, all your personal ambitions, all your feelings, you expose them all and then, dude, you just sit there with your deceptive self and just play with you as if was a violin, press all your buttons many times.
You guys talk so much, you put all your personal feelings on Facebook, maybe ohLord help me Jesus, you know why you would put all your personal feelings on Facebook. I want a man. I want a man. How to give? I the roses that I want to make and then you give him all the ammunition he needs. he comes in and he just fools you you talk too much when you go on a date if a man doesn't have a proper conversation then you should shorten the day politely cut off today's shot and x-amount He's not one of the support men, how can he need you? and you have to talk everything it's like going to church for the congregation to do all the preaching that the Bible says in Proverbs 29 and 11 a fool says with all his mind but a wise man keeps it to himself until later women talk too much, you invite more people here because I have five more coming in and then I'm leaving here number six someone about to get mad at me all of you give me my heart number six following advice from women who are alone and angry at the world, it's another big mistake that women women commit, many women lose good men because they follow advice from women who don't have one and are angry at the world, many of you have lost good men because you sit around with your friends who don't have any man and a man with everything they He's wearing pants almost ready to turn into one of these little plastic lesbians because man what man now do you think you're going to leave, yeah I'm trying to be nice.
I thought I'm trying to be kind by taking advice from women who are lonely and angry at all men. All men are not bad. All men aren't even. Most of them are, but not all of them are dogs and there are some that are reformed dogs. like the one who is talking to you right now, there are some who have been redeemed, so all men are not bad, but when you sit down with these little women and follow all their advice, if you are a woman looking for what you want a man To find yourself as a wife, follow the advice of women who are happily married.
You don't need advice from the woman who didn't have 15 different men and couldn't get an engagement ring from one of them. No, she's sitting there mad at the whole world. You have to know how to take advice. You have to know where people fit into your life. She does not. She's not supposed to be the one doing the talking, but there are no proverbs about relationships. 13:20 says that he who walks with wise men will be wise but the companion of fools will be destroyed. Matthew 15:14 says to be blind leaders of the blind and if a blind man leads another blind man, they will both fall into the pit. seven enter or entertain rather listen it's a new man this is a mistake numbers the seventh mistake I see women make entertaining a new man without the advice of the men in your life when I say the men in your life I'm talking about fathers, I'm talking about brothers, I'm talking about male friends who really have your best interests most of the time, when they think they want a man, they sneak away and develop this secret relationship with this man and men. in your life or in your life to protect you to protect you and advise you you are in the dark until he breaks your heart then you want to go find your brothers they want and they want them to go to jail for the new one who hit the man You should have spoken with your brothers when you were entertaining the man.
Your brothers could have told you that this guy has nothing left to play with, but you see that you want to do what you want before you get advice. The Bible says that in the multitude of advice there is security God puts men in your life who love you and have no agenda but your best interest so they can guide you, you have never been a man. I don't know how men think, you don't know what kind of games men play, why do I come to your cable? Write the book because women don't know that fathers are supposed to teach their daughters, that's how women with PhDs are manipulated by GED men, you've never been. a man, you don't know the games we play, so when you entertain a new man, bring that man from your pastor, bring that man from your father, bring that man from your brothers, bring that man from your cousin , let a man put his eyes.
About him, why would you have access to men who love you and not use that advice because you don't want to be told he's not the one? Then you would rather learn it the hard way as you learn in life through instructional experience. See, what happens is when you entertain a new man without the advice of the men in your life. What happens is that you get disappointed again and then you get disappointed again and you get disappointed again unnecessarily. Now look at this. I'm talking to all of you. and we have people in this area tonight and you know that many of you have disconnected from me right now, many of you are disconnected from me right now and that's what you do, you disconnect the men in your life who love you and don't has more agenda than your best interests because you don't want to hear the truth, it's like it's in church, you know, we don't always want to hear the truth, especially when that truth means we have to make adjustments and things that we really don't want to change or things that we hope they are from God, that God is in this, so we don't want the man of God or the woman of God to say that God has not only allowed only that because we want this to be what we think is right number eight now this is this is big everyone needs to hear this the eighth mistake I see women make is that you always make up the relationship even when he's wrong in In other words, you're always the one who runs back to mine.
I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, that, that, that, that, that, that, that's, that's a pimp move right there, man, he never, man, he's never wrong, he never apologizes, y'all have made. a fight or an argument about something and you're always the first one to call, you're always the one who gets a call and you say: I'm sorry, look, that's manipulation, you're being manipulated, you don't even realize it, you're being tricked and You don't even realize that he is using the same psychological warfare on you that pimps use on prostitutes on the street to control you and create a soul bond where he becomes your emotional addiction and you keep running.
I'm sorry, I'm sorry and he put his hands on you and you're going to tell him you're sorry for exploding in your mouth but he hit you in the head. I'm sorry I made you do that, come on, hey, you're always the one to make up, he's never wrong, he's never the one to come up to you and say baby, let's settle this, let's fix this a husband is one who is a man What would be a husband is one who tends to worry about his wife's feelings man, you know there is nothing in the world that disturbs me more than when I feel that my wife is hurt if a man can sense that you are hurt and ignores you that is fault of respect i'm not saying you should never say you're wrong or that you should never be the one making up but all the time he's never wrong you're always the one who reaches out why are you so dead white light and he feels the same way you feel why he loved you as much as you want him it's quite hot it's because apparently you won It's not him more than he loves you first Peter five and five says the same thing you young people are going to see this, listen to this carefully , submit yourselves to the eldest, yes, all be subject to one another, all be subject, don't you know?
In a relationship between a man, when a relationship is healthy, a man who had, although he has his role according to the scriptures as the head of the house and the family, you do not understand that this means that this man does not submit as much to his wife for longer periods of time or more. How she is to him are things about them that I cannot do because of my role as head of my house and those days I have to learn to submit to my wife and if a man does not love you enough to reconcile me when all of you had odds number nine of abandoning his personal ambition of seeking women.
They often abandon their personal ambition to pursue a man or they don't like what I'm talking about, they don't abandon their personal ambition to pursue a man. from a man you drop out of school because he tells you to drop out baby, I'm going to take care of you mmm, you put all your ambitions on hold and you depend on someone, some man to take care of you now, do you think they are You don't just listen to what I just said I mean, you put all your personal ambitions, your professional goals, your educational goals, your financial goals on hold for a man who isn't even proven because you're not married to him, he doesn't take care of you for long. of time so you can put your entire life and well-being on hold and number one, if a man really loves you, he's not trying to talk you out of getting better, he's talking you into getting better, he's the one who tells you that you know you need yourself. you should go back to being a master chef you should go back and work on your PhD they know you should do this show Ben what you want to do what you want in terms of your career anyway I can help you he is Don't try to convince you to be dependent, right?
Why would a man who loves you want you to depend on him when he doesn't know if he'll wake up in the morning and you're crazy enough to fall into a trap like that? It is nothing more than manipulation. and control will send you to school that is exactly right but women often abandon their personal ambition in the pursuit of some relationship you are lost to us that was never God's intention acts 5:29 Peter says and the Bible says then Peter and The other The apostles responded and said that we should obey God and not man, they told them: do not do this, do not do that, and I had to choose if we were going to do what God put us here to do or are they going to be the forces of men, they said that we should obey God instead of man.
If God gave you a vision, why would you abandon your vision following some man's will? And on number 10 this is just 10 now we could go on and on and on not asking questions not asking questions is a big mistake that women often make seeing that questions reveal motives and any man not doing it doesn't mean that I'll never feel comfortable wondering comfortable with you asking questions what kind of questions pastor what was your last relationship like in, you know, listen to the answer because you know in the ads you're going to, you're going to get when he answers that you don't get his temperament, well, You know, yes, you can resume.
About his knight, what would you know? What is your? What is your professional gold? Well, you plan to be one in ten years. What is your vision? What are your short-term goals? What is your point of view when being alone? As? What is your religion? questions the Bible says in Amos three and three can two walk together unless they agree how can we go in common or reach a common goal if we are not walking the same path but you may discover that you will not know that you are not walking the same path unless you ask questions.
Any man who doesn't want you to ask questions that you don't want in any way because that's a wife she's supposed to submit to a man like a husband. A husband has to do it. be able to answer questions and if he is not comfortable with you asking questions, one man enough for you let me give it to you one more time, I will let you go to all the number one common mistakes women make in relationships when trying to hook a man with sex number two settling for a man who lacks character thinking you can change him number three not taking the time to learn and heal from the previous breakup before moving on to another number four tolerating emotional abuse number five talking too much too soon Supposed that you should not share your heart with anyone but your husband, a man who is committed and dedicated to you and has shown you that he is your cover.
You don't share your heart with any kind of man you don't tell. a man all number six following advice from women who are alone and angry you will lose a good man playing with that type of woman advice number seven entertaining a new man without the advice of the men in your life father husband fulfilling our husband fathers pastors brothers friends the number eight is always the one that brings reconciliation he never comes closer you always come closer to reconciliation the number nine abandons your personal ambitions for the search for a relationship and then the number 10 does not ask questions those are the 10 most mistakes common that I have found women to fix this whole
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